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Hi, I'm not really sure if this is the forum in which I should place my question, so please keep that in mind. my husband and his ex girlfriend put their baby up for adoption almost 30 years ago and I'm unsure of all the paperwork they had to fill out, but my husband adopted my daughter when she was very small (11 years after his first born was placed for adoption). And at the time I was the legal secretary to the firm who represented me during the adoption. So I am the one who had to fill out all the forms to submit to the court and know first hand that there were TONS AND TONS AND TONS of questions about medical history that I had to provide from both sides of my family and my ex's family. That being said, I have a question for adoptees and birth moms/dads alike. I've seen quite a bit of posts on the boards where adoptees want to find their birth parents for one reason of many to find out about their medical history. But I was wondering if the birth mothers and fathers had to provide that when they placed their children for adoption. Please note that I only ask this question out of curiosity because of my own experience when my hubby adopted my daughter. It is in NO WAY to be taken that I am knocking or doubting that reason. Looking forward to your responses.... Have a great weekend.
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I remember providing my family medical history and as much as I knew of father's history. I am a bmom. I provided info to catholic social services assuming it was going to be passed on to the child for her medical history. Now I know they may not have gotten any medical hustory. There is diabetes in her father's side so that concerned me.
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I had to fill out a packet of paperwork on mine and my family's medical history and as much as I knew of the guy and his family's medical history also both times I placed.Both my girls parents have told me they received the medical history and information I filled out. I also tell them things as I think of them and they ask me questions since we e-mail each other often and keep in regular contact.
Maybe in the pst few years medical info was included in adoptions. But a few problems with that..one if bmom is young, her parents may be still fairly young and medical issues have not cropped up yet. So realy in terms of the adult adoptee the info is old and nor helpful. #2 ..Many adult adoptees of today are from the closed era and that kind of info was not to be had..even if it were the records are closed, not attainable
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We adopted last fall. Our son's bmom gave very scant info on her medicals. Basically, I think she provided a few causes of death for some family members. We really don't have anything on the bfather. I've been very worried about allergies, so when he had a moderate reaction a few weeks ago, I contacted the agency who was fortunately able to contact with his bmom. She was able to tell me that there are no known allergies with her, her other children or the bfather. I was so grateful to get that info! I believe her decision to place or choice of agency was fairly last-minute, so there wasn't a lot of time for her to fill out forms in counseling session, and she was very ready to leave the hospital after the birth. I think that may be one reason why we dont' have more info. I just pray that we'll always be able to get in contact w/ her in some way through the years if we have an emergency need for info.
I am very close to my daughters parents they got my medical history, if you want to call it that :)
I brought all of my adoption paperwork with me to work today for a project we֒re working on here is what my ֑medical report says:
Birthmother: No significant medical history
Maternal Birthfamily:
No significant medical history
Birthfather: No significant medical history
Paternal Birthfamily:
No significant medical history
This was in 1996 Җ here is what I provided for me and Brian (BF) did not disclose medical history ֖ he never even talked to anyone at the agency they served him with TPR Papers, he signed them in front of a notary and that was it.
Here is what I told them:
My medical history ֖ no KNOWN significant medical history (ADOPTED)
Maternal Birthfamily My birthmother had thyroid issues that resulted in thyroid removal and hysterectomy at age 24 ֖ no other maternal birthfamily medical history known (ADOPTED)
Birthfather: Unknown did not disclose
Thankfully, at least for us, we have a fully open adoption.
I have several neurological issues, a history of cancer and several other significant medical issues that have become known in the ten years since filling out that paperwork.
When I relinquished my daughter, I had no medical information about my parents. I was the "throw away" child and didn't know the first thing about them.Later in life, I did find out , so when I reunited with my bdaughter I was able to supply her with it. Know what? NONE of it was applicable. In fact, she asked about ADHD and ADD, which, far as I can tell doesn't exist in our family on either side.dmca
I was also able to receive my non-identifying info from the adoption agency, however, the forms were so light and unreadable and barely any of the medical info was completed, so it was extremely unhelpful to me! Makes me realize that when I complete any medical history for myself or my kids, I should really be thorough about it! Just in case!
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