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While paying volunteer child support for 2 kids 3,4 my ex cut off all contact 4 months ago and now I get served with adoption papers. Asking me to abandon my kids to some one else. Now I will file for custody. Some one needs to prtect the kids rights to have a relationship with the REAL father
Real is a relative term and others may take offense to being told that they are not real or, thus, imaginary. That said, you ARE the biological father and you DO need to get yourself a lawyer and get, at the very least, shared custody. Unfortuantely, your childrens' Mother was not kind enough to deal with this in a nice manner and it's going to have to be decided in court. You'll be in my thoughts.
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SchmennaLeigh
Real is a relative term and others may take offense to being told that they are not real or, thus, imaginary. That said, you ARE the biological father and you DO need to get yourself a lawyer and get, at the very least, shared custody. Unfortuantely, your childrens' Mother was not kind enough to deal with this in a nice manner and it's going to have to be decided in court. You'll be in my thoughts.
Real Father maybe a relative term to some but the DNA Test I had done states me as the real Father.
numbr1dbcksfan
I agree.. get a lawyer! Though Im not sure how he will adopt.. I thought you said in another post that it was her ex husband.. and well most step parent adoptions require them to be married a certain amount of time.
I hope whatever the deal is.. that it turns out in the best interest of the children.
Well I'm a Father that paid $1000/month support and thousands on furniture, 2 tvs, 2 dvd players, beds, dinette set computer chair and clothing. I travelled across North America 3 times a year to spend some time with my Babies. Gee I wonder if its in the babies best interest to stop that. Oh Yea! She is loaded on anxiety and anti depressants pills and he has been suicidal.
numbr1dbcksfan
I agree.. get a lawyer! Though Im not sure how he will adopt.. I thought you said in another post that it was her ex husband.. and well most step parent adoptions require them to be married a certain amount of time.
I hope whatever the deal is.. that it turns out in the best interest of the children.
They got remarried within the month of cutting me off and filing the papers
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SchmennaLeigh
So, those who are not connected by DNA are imaginary parents?
I believe step parent is the term
Anti-anxiety and anti-depressants do not qualify you as an unfit parent. Spending lots of money doesn't qualify you as the best parent ever either. That said, step-parents ARE parents. I need to ask you to stop generalizing all parents with your situation. This is a warning.
I believe step parent is the term
And you're wrong here. We have adoptive parents, foster parents, etc, that are not connected by blood. They are not step-parents... even though step-parents are parents.
What is it that you're searching for here, Brian? Can we help you? Without generalizing or stereotyping?
SchmennaLeigh
Anti-anxiety and anti-depressants do not qualify you as an unfit parent. Spending lots of money doesn't qualify you as the best parent ever either. That said, step-parents ARE parents. I need to ask you to stop generalizing all parents with your situation. This is a warning.
What is it that you're searching for here, Brian? Can we help you? Without generalizing or stereotyping?
I was searching for anything but since you ask. Perscription abuse is not a positive attribute and niether is suicide. I have been refering to my situation no body elses and how is that stereotyping?
You are an Adoptive parent offended buy the idea that the Birth father is concidered the real father. If you take issue with that will free,
Your story just changed, Brian. Being on meds and abusing them are two totally different issues.
That said, you're using poor adoption language and stereotyping by using words and phrases like "real parent," claiming that those not attached by DNA are step-parents (when, especially in this forum, that is not the black and white case) and basically bad mouthing in general.
And, you're spot off on who I am. As you can see in my signature, I'm a firstmother. However, I respect adoptive parents. Respect on these forums is part of TOS. This will serve as my last warning.
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SchmennaLeigh
Your story just changed, Brian. Being on meds and abusing them are two totally different issues.
That said, you're using poor adoption language and stereotyping by using words and phrases like "real parent," claiming that those not attached by DNA are step-parents (when, especially in this forum, that is not the black and white case) and basically bad mouthing in general.
And, you're spot off on who I am. As you can see in my signature, I'm a firstmother. However, I respect adoptive parents. Respect on these forums is part of TOS. This will serve as my last warning.
BLOW ME THAT IS MY FIRST AND LAST WARNING YOU IDIOT YOU CANT EVEN FOLLOW THE TOPIC