Hello, New-ish to forums

Hello, I already placed my 2 pennies in some forums. I thought I'd say an official hello here however. Just a bit about me and how I got here. My husband and I were both adopted. He went through the foster system in Illinois and I was a private adoption btwn TX & NY. He is currently trying to get some sort of info regarding medical history and why he wound up in foster care so if anyone has any suggestions please let me know. He was born in 1966 and was told that the files were distroyed when the adoption was finalized. Anyway, we are now waiting, and waiting, and waiting to adopt our own children through the foster care system. We are approved for foster to adopt in GA. I have been getting very frustrated with the whole thing. I am a 'take charge' type of person and fear that I am being a bit too pushy. I feel like I am on the outside of this situation, that all I can do is sit and wait and frankly I am no good at that. I feel like, somewhere out there are my children and I don't want them to spend a moment more then they have to in foster care. When we first started this process in January we were told that we could have a child in our home in a few months. Well its been more than a few months and still we wait. We were told that there are thousands of children who fit our criteria (0-10 in age, mild special needs in most areas although will take moderate to sevear in some, any race, any sex, and we are approved for a maximum of 2 children) in the foster care system. We havn't seen any. Actually, we have seen 1 history of a little girl that we were very interested in but another family beat us to her. The rest of the histories (4 total) have been kids with severe problems that we know we can't handle. I keep sending my homestudy accross state lines and never hear anything back from anyone and I wonder what exactly the social worker's job is at this stage of the game. Is she actively looking or just waiting like I am? Its a very frustrating situation. The photo listings don't help either. I have fallen in love with the picture of two little boys (brothers) in Florida and sent my home study but once again fear being too pushy and my SW says not to look desperate (why not, isn't that what we are at this point?) so, again, I wait. Not hearing anything, not even knowing if they are looking at it. Not knowing even if the boys are a match for us... Well, I really wasn't planning to go into all that but since I did I'll leave it alone. This is the reason I came onto this site. Looking for people who understand. I am sick of peole saying "but didn't they say it would only be a few months?" "Weren't you told they have thousands of children?" "You should just forget the whole thing and make your own." :grr: Thanks for letting me vent, Ilysse