Wanting to adopt...can you answer some ??? for me?

Hi Jackie,One thing is for sure, you are not going to be able to know for sure what will happen until you try! But I can tell you from experience that this can work out beautifully for you.Gorwing up adopted was no big deal for me, my sister or our friends. None of us felt out of place, none of us are unhappy adults. Purely out of coincidence I grew up knowing quite a few friends who had been adopted. Included are two different families with older children they conceived and younger children adopted from overseas. One of the children was adopted when he was an infant and two were adopted at ages 2 and 5. I do tend to think that inborn personality traits and disposition have a role in the equation, but all three of these kids were very happy children. They had all the usual issues with their siblings and none related to race, biology, or perceived family rank. Children are remarkably resillient particularly when they're taught how to handle their feelings and keep focused on what's most important in life. I am caucasian and was adopted by caucasian parents, but we still encountered a few negative situations. In particular, my paternal grandmother made a constant fuss over her biological grandchildren and how much they looked like her, having special portraits painted and so on. We talked about it with our parents, came up with a strategy to move past it and it because a tremendous joke within our nuclear family. Now I'm a mom who chose international adoption to start a family. I have only one child so I'm not looking out for sibling issues but it is important to think about a strategy to function as a conspicuous family. My son is Korean and we've had no comments to speak of except for multiple occasions when adoption has come up and people have told me they didn't realize he'd been adopted! My advice is that you interview a few agencies if you haven't done that already and take the time to ask the social workers what advice they have to help you ensure that your family blends nicely. There are courses and articles that would probably help you feel more comfortable and confident. But know that you're the leaders of your family and if you set up a loving, equitable environment for your children and maintain an open dialog about race, family and adoption you will be just fine!As far as the number of children is concerned, I only have experience as a child with one sibling and as a mother of an only child. I will tell you that I would have loved to have another sibling or to have been on my own. You have two genders so the dynmics may be different but growing up with one same sexed sister just a year apart was extremely competitive. That doesn't have to be the case, it was really a dynamic that my parents unwittingly encouraged. So I suppose my suggestion is the same when it comes to the number of siblings... expect that three will be a just fine and then teach and monitor to make sure that is the case!I hope that's helpful. If you want more detail, just let me know!