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Those of you with an open adoption with contact, how does your child refer to your birthparent's parents? By name? Special name? I was not anticipating contact with a birth grandparent, but now have, which is good, but I wonder what to write in the scrapbook where there are pictures and I'll want a name with it, or in her baby book, and later when she is older and talking.
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We adopted twins and are in contact with both sets of birth granparents. My parents are divorced and remarried, so that adds yet another set of grandparents. We also got to meet the twins great-grandma before she died. We have various names for all the grandparents, most often grandma or grandpa followed by first name, like Grandma-Mary. But one is "Grammy". We are also in contact with quite a few half-sisters and brothers and various aunts, uncles, cousins etc... Our adopted twins are now 8 years old. We don't worry about the details too much, it doesn't really matter if Joe is an biological uncle or cousin of the birthdad. If he prefer's "uncle Joe" that is OK with us.
I will ask bmom if her mom has any preference. At this point, I just want to know what to write in her baby book and scrapbook. The weird part is, I saw her mom at the hospital and the other day when we met, and I realized when I got home that I don't know bmom's parents' names!!! She just always referred to her as "my mom" and I referred to her as "your mom." I am also not sure how involved her parents want to be. The only people that knew about her pregnancy was her mother (dad knew day of birth) and three friends. Bmom has two other children that do not know. So, I don't know how the grandparents feel about being involved. Jenna,what did Munchkin's mom say?
My daughter, who is now nine years old, has always referred to her birth grandparents by their first names. This is how they chose to refer to themselves-we really didn't give it much thought as the first names just seemed to come naturally and this is what they are most comfortable with.
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redbonec
Those of you with an open adoption with contact, how does your child refer to your birthparent's parents? By name? Special name? I was not anticipating contact with a birth grandparent, but now have, which is good, but I wonder what to write in the scrapbook where there are pictures and I'll want a name with it, or in her baby book, and later when she is older and talking.
rredhead
DH & I plan on having Jack refer to S's mom as "her name". For scrapbooking purposes, I'll journal what her relationship is, and then refer to her as either "her name" or "S's mom".-R
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rykyki
My daughter, who is now nine years old, has always referred to her birth grandparents by their first names. This is how they chose to refer to themselves-we really didn't give it much thought as the first names just seemed to come naturally and this is what they are most comfortable with.
rykyki
My daughter, who is now nine years old, has always referred to her birth grandparents by their first names. This is how they chose to refer to themselves-we really didn't give it much thought as the first names just seemed to come naturally and this is what they are most comfortable with.
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Our children refer to thier Birth grandparens as Grandma & Papa. ALL of them refer to each other's Birth Grand Parents the same way! LOL Our children have so many Grand Parents! LOL Each child's Birth Grand Parents are very fine with this relationship as well.
When we have to refer to one set in particular, then we call them Grandma (first name) Papa (first name). The only one who is different is my Mom, they call her Neema for some weird reason!! LOL
Deb
DebCsMom
The only one who is different is my Mom, they call her Neema for some weird reason!! LOLDeb