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[FONT=Lucida Sans Unicode]Hi everyone!! I just wanted to introduce myself. I have been wandering around the site for a while. My DH and I are on the waiting list. We have been now since June of last year. I have put together our profile for paretn profiles and am just waiting for my caseworker to send in the papers. Anyway, I am excited to meet new people here that are in my same situation. I am a little nervous since I have been reading other posts from first moms that are not happy with adoption. I guess it is good to see both sides though. So that is a little about me!!Cami:flower:[/FONT]
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Remember that for as manny different types of people there are in the world, there are that many different takes on adoptiona nd that many different experiences.....Adoption equals grief in ever aspect of the triad...the level and depth and intensity of grief and what is being grieved is the only difference.Find out what the bparents who are unhappy, are unhappy about? what should have been done to make it better, or easier. How were they treated? You'll find that most who were coerced into placing are unhappy, try to make sure that when you are matched that the bparents are given ample education about placing, make sure they are doing it for the right reasons. (IE, do not want to be a parent) MAke sure they understand that they could parent if they chose to...In some cases adoptive parents are not financially better off than birth families, but that impression is given.....try not to be intimidating...thats a big factor in some bparents decisions to place, fear of aparents reaction if they change their minds....Learn from all sides of the triad what mistakes to avoid....and remember, all of us are only human.