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I NEED TO FIND MY DAUGHTER.I got pregnant when I was in high school and my parents would not let me keep her. I had no decision in the matter and I didn't have other family (i.e. grandparents or aunts & uncles) to go stay with to be able to keep her. When I told my parents the first thing my Dad did was go get his gun and he threatened to "kill two birds with one stone" right then and there. Instead he went and shot at my daughter's Dad while he was sitting in his car after getting home from work that day. They sold our house and moved us 2 hours away. I was a High School Junior and had gone to school with these kids my entire life but, that didn't matter to them. I wasn't allowed to leave my house from the day I told them till the day after I had her. I couldn't even go to the mailbox or sit on the porch....I DID sneak outside and sit in the front porch swing just to feel like I was giving her some fresh air. I stayed in that house, watched TV and cleaned house for 4 1/2 months. I WAS allowed to go to my doctor appts. I am a mother of 3 boys now ages 9, 17, & 18 and they want to see their sister almost as bad as me. ALMOST. I just can't leave this world without telling her that I wanted her.. that I love her...and that leaving her at that hospital was no easier for me than if I'd had to leave one of my sons. I would have been just as good of a mother to her as I have been to my boys. I came from a mentally and sexually abusive home as in all day every day it was bad. I realize that even if they'd let me keep her she would have been just as if not more abused so that was probably lucky for her. I just have this place inside of me that always, always has something missing. When I walk through the house at night making sure everybody is asleep and safe I can't get rid of that empty feeling.. something is always missing. You know how some people were born to do certain things in life? well, I was born to be a mother..period. I know there are girls who actually make the choice to give up their babies...I'm just not one of them. I can tell you these facts. She was born on 12/1/84.. St. Mary's Hospital in Knoxville, TN at 7:41 pm. She was 8 pounds even and 22 inches long. When my mother left the hospital that night I called down to the nursery and made them bring her to me so I HAVE held her. I sat there and held her for 2 hours apologizing, counting fingers and toes, and I even got to change her diaper. I'm not looking to take anything away from the people who raised her, I not expecting anything at all, well, maybe for her to be hurt and angry with me & I will deal with that, I just need to know that she's okay.. nothing else. Sure I'd love to have a relationship with her.. heck, for all I know I'm a grandmother now..But, I just need to know that she's okay.. that she's been happy, that nobody has ever done the disgusting things to her that were done to me by my father, my brother, and even one of my own sisters. I need to know she's happy and I just really really need for her to know that I didn't want to do it.. I swear to God I had no choice. If anybody could just please give me some kind of advice on how to find her myself. I work all the adoption sites & have profiles on every single one I know of. I even post that I'm looking for my daughter along with her birth date on my facebook several times PER DAY.Anything.. ANY KIND of information would help.P L E A S E!!!!!!!!!!!!!!