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Hey all!!!
Lots has happened since I last posted to adoption.com
My grandmother, who I was taking care of for the last year passed away August the 8th, her funeral was August 11, and then on August 15th, our children we had been matched with moved in for good.
So, it's been CRAZY, to say the least!!!
However, things so far are going great...so much better than I expected, but obviously not honeymooning either.
Okay...to my question.
My daughter wants her friend to sleep over sometime, as does her friend. I have told my daughter that she cannot have her friend over unless she calls me and I speak to her mother and get to know her some (of course, meeting her will come as well first...but I at least need to speak to her first to break the ice).
Her friend, on Thursday, said that her mother would not call me, because "that's not the way you do things".
So, is this her mom's way of getting out of having her daughter have a sleep over here, or is there something I'm missing?
I never had a sleep over as a child, but I am a little offended that this mother doesn't even want to call me first to kind of "feel each other out" before meeting.
I am not the best in the social department either (as friendly as I am, I have very few friends...and they are all from childhood and we don't see each other often because they've moved), so I am wondering if anyone has any input or tips for me.
My daughter likes this girl, and she seems nice enough to where I wouldn't mind her spending the evening...and the girls are on the same basketball team, too, as well as classmates.
So, long story short...should I be offended...or how DO mothers meet anymore? haha
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You are a caring and concerned mother and are definitely right about speaking directly with the parents of your daughter's friend. But, I don't think you should be offended yet. Since you are inviting the girl to visit in your home, why don't you call the girl's mother? Perhaps what the mother meant was 'it was not the thing to do to call and "ask for" an invitation'. She may not be sure yu really want her daughter to visit overnight. Or, the girls may not be delivering messages correctly.After you have talked to the other mom "person-to-person" you should have a better idea of whether you want to have sleep-overs or just daily play-dates.
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It could be worse. My daughter has had three different girls spend the night over the past few years.One girls mom just dropped her off and never even spoke to me. Another ones grandparents ,who I had never even met dropped their granddaughter off with out even calling first or telling us when they would pick her up. They knew we where having a yardsale and the house was in a mess. The last little girl to stay the night lived in the neighborhood so I knew her parents. I think the mom may just be waiting for an invitation.