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We are in the process of adopting our foster dtr that we have had since she was 3 days old and now she is 15 mos. Parents are to surrender custody tomorrow but BiGrandmother has been all over us about maintaining her twice a month visitation with our Fd. The SW has explained to us that in our state when both bioparents surrender, the bigrandparent will loose all legal rights as well. We want to give our FD some "down time" as she has been bounced twice a week to visitations. We have promiced the Bigrandmother to keep her involved but I get the feeling she feels that means keeping with the same visitation schedule that she had through the SW. WHAT TO DO?
You should do whatever you feel comfortable with, this is your child and you need some time to be a family without the interference of anyone else.
I have a mediation agreement with my son's bparents and we have 4 visits a year. His bgrandmother usually comes to these visits but she also sends letters, etc. to my post office box and I usually send pictures back to her. She hasn't been pushy at all about anything. She even told me she is grateful that I am now his mother.
I think it is important for kids to know their biological relatives but you need time to adjust to your new life together without interruption. If she truly cares about her grandchild she will understand.
Good luck...
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