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Hi. I hope you'all can give me a little advice. My wife and I are in a strange situation. After years of trying to conceive and one earth-shattering miscarriage, we got very excited about adoption, and have thrown ourselves into the issues around intercultural transnational adoption (we are both white). We got our international clearance two weeks ago and then were shocked 3 days ago to discover that we were pregnant. The next day we got a referral for an infant from Guatemala. We never had any intention of what I now find is called "artificial twinning" and we don't know what to do. We're both in our early forties, the Guatemalan laws are changing, My wife's pregnancy may or may not be successful. Our adoption agency is, we've just found out, closing up shop because of the Hague stuff. If we accept the referral, we will likely end up with two children who are 8 months apart in age, both arriving at more or less the same time. It would be our first experience with parenthood. We need to make a decision on the referral right away.
Any words of wisdom?
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Why not?? I would go for it. If perhaps...and heaven forbid...your wife has complications, you will not have lost the opportunity to adopt. My boys are 2 1/2 months apart in age. Of course we adopted thru foster care, but Bug was only 4 1/2 months old when we took placement of Bear...knowing that it was an adoptive placement. Sure you have twice the diapers and a double stroller, and twice the terrible 2's...but there is twice the love too! As far as artificial twinning is concerned, I actually treasure the bond the boys have. It is something you don't see every day, but it is amazing to watch. It is also nice because they play together and you can get more done...of course there is also twice the mess at times. I would not change a thing if I could!! Best of luck to you and your wife...and congratulations x2!!
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