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I am an adoptee and my birthday is next month on the 25th. I have been in reunion wtih my birth mother for several months now. A while back we talked about my birthday and what I would like to do for it. At that time I was caught up in the "honey-moon" stage of reunion where everything was great, I said I would like to spend my birthday with her. Things are still good in our relationship, but we are definitely not in the "honey-moon" stage any longer. I'm having second thoughts about what I should do for my birthday. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, my parents or my birth mohters and it is my birthday after all. In the past I have pretty much done my own thing on my birthday with my husband and son. My parents may take me out to dinner or have dinner for me, but it isn't nothing really planned or anything. I think this year should be special because of reuniting with my birth mother --- but I am feeling really guilty as to my parents. Any suggestions?
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Do not feel guilted into changing your whole routine because you have someone new in your life. Yes she may want to spend it with you, but if you feel otherwise she needs to know now, so feelings do not get hurt. AS for the 25 years with out you, as an adoptee i say we have not been at camp all these years, some of us have gone on with our lives, and should never be beholden to some stranger, no matter who it is.