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Thanks for responding! I was beginning to wonder if I was the only one. No, we haven't met him. All I keep hearing is "we hope to hear something soon". Hmmm, I just don't know what could be taking this long. The worker said all the paperwork had been sent to ICPC back in October. I've talked to the foster parents. They sound like REALLY nice people.
I was under the impression that we couldn't meet him until we had ICPC approval. In fact, he has no idea about us - and won't until "the plane ticket is purchased".
Have you been given any sort of time frame on yours?
I don't understand why you haven't met him yet, and he doesn't know about you??? Won't that be an awfully quick adjustment for him? It's exactly the opposite with us, the kids knew we had been matched with them before we did (i don't recommend that, of course),and we have visited twice over the past couple months, once in TX and once here in our home state just to make sure it's a good match. feel free to pm me if you want more details, i'd love to chat more. terpgirl:hippie:
Hi terpgirl, I'm in Wisconson & have had my SW inquiring about some out of state kids for us. Just wondering how the experience has been for you? How much more work is it, going out of state? What state are you in? We do have an inquiry in on a TX sibling group; we're just waiting to hear if we get matched. Thanks!
hi,
I may not be the best person to ask right now, we have been matched with a sib group from TX since August and are still waiting. The process seems straightforward enough, you have a social worker (we are in NY), the kids have a sw, and there are supervising sws from each state, through the ICPC (Interstate Compact on the Placement of Children.) Interstate adds a layer of complication , and more steps and more people who are overworked and underpaid and more paperwork to take far longer than anyone would expect, especially us. If you PM me, I'll tell you the agency we are working through, I couldn't remmy how to use PM.
We went to TX to meet the children, they have been here as well, and we would definitely recommend domestic adoption, but it's not the easiest experience.
The main reason we even went interstate is because the ny website is terribly out of date, and there must be more children than that available for adoption (unfortunately.) TX's website is beautifully maintained, lots of pictures and information, plus they have a lot of children. If your social worker is doing the inquiring for you, you're already ahead of the game...we had to do all that ourselves.
let me know how your "match" goes...we submitted several homestudies to TX and were matched with a couple sib groups...TX seemed surprised that we had more than one homestudy in to them at the same time. Good luck!
terpgirl
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