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Originally Posted By PJHi -I am a 43 adoptee who is not activly searching but would be interested in a reunion if birthmom wanted. I would however welcome contact with any other adoptees or birthmoms who just want someone to email with about their cares and concerns. I would like to email other adoptees because it is sometimes hard to talk about my feelings about the adoption experience with people who have not had their lives touched by adoption. They care but really don't understand. I think it would also be fun to talk with birthmothers so I could get an idea of their side of view and help them by letting them know how their child might feel. I hope to hear from you all soon. Take care! PJ
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Originally Posted By AndyOur twin's are 14 month old, we have a totally open adoption with bmom - I have been asking for more bdad info, in case our boy's want to meet him later on in live. My fears are that our baby's will be hurt (which they will) I worry about it every day - I feel so sad that they are adopted - I feel like they deserve better, don't ask me why -cause we do everything we can for them - the openess - dad works 70 hours a week so I can stay home with them - what can I do to ease their pain - I know it will be a long time before they will understand - but it makes me so sad - not knowing what to expect.Thank You
Originally Posted By Belinda OreganI am an adoptee and I have just recently found my natural mother after 15 years of wondering if you would like to email im quite happy to chat to you although im only 20 yrs old although i love teling my story. I have always known that I was adopted and my parents told me i was chosen and they waited for me for five years and im very special. I would love to talk to you if you are so worried. Please write back and i wish you all the best of luck
Originally Posted By MomYour twins should not be sad and neither should you. It sounds as if they are very much loved and as long as you show them how special they are, they will be very much safe. I would suggest you tell them from the start f their adoption. Explain to them that their mother did not place them up for adoption because she did not love them; but because she did and wanted what was best for them.I think it is wonderful that you have an open adoption. That will alleviate the need for them to go through this "searching for answers" process that most of us here are going through. You have done a wonderfully admirable thing by trying to get as much info as possible about their b-parents. They will be very grateful for that and hopefully it will alleviate the questions and lack of answers that adoptees like myself have.I don't think you have anything to worry about at all. I think your twins will grow up to be very loving and respectful of what all of you have done for them.Adoption is not a "sad" thing. It is sad when these kids are placed and nobody ever adopts them and they end up growing up in the system. Your twins have nothing to be sad about and you should not either.an Adoptee
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