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So, I'm guessing most, if not all of you, might be able to hear me on this, but this week has been almost unbearable with the whole 'waiting' thing.
As I've said before, I'm not a very patient person and had buckled myself in ready for the rough road ahead that is "waiting for the call", but, for some reason, that seatbelt is rather loose fitting this week.
I'm finding myself REALLY thinking about it all and a couple of times this week on the verge of tears (verge/schmerge - downright sobbing at times) for apparently no reason. Granted that one time a month sort of coincided with it all, but this month has been different - more intense.
"Where is my baby?" is all I can seem to think.
I said to my mom just this morning, that although I have a great support system (especially in her), I'm feeling rather isolated lately. I know we all feel what we're "supposed" to be feeling, but I'm finding myself thinking "What am I supposed to be feeling?" and "Is this normal?"...all those fantastically crazy thoughts that make a person ready for the ol' straight jacket.
So.........here I am - a fair weathered forum buddy - not on in the last long while and now that I need you, I'm here and asking for support.
Just good and bad days I guess.
Thanks for the ears/eyes.
Naiter
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Hi Naiter and Ladies,
I have not posted for a long time. We were very close to 2 year old twins and then told they were placed in Northern Alberta where they reside. This was a huge dissappointment for us.
We are with a private agency and Family Services but Naiter I believe you are with the same agency as we are because we have joined the support group on Wed. at 7:00.
Is that possible?
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Hi Laides
Just to clarify it is not A.O. but the other one in town. We felt more comfortable with our choice over the first choice even though thei rstats are higher.
We were discouraged with the first one I mentioned because we are an older couple however have a DS and DD that are full biological siblings which is wonderful. Now we are looking for a 3rd and if there is a sibling group a 4th will be all right too!
Our exoperience withthe 2 year old twins were a nightmare. Our SW sent us an E-Mail notifying us that another family was chosen in the area. We had worked with the kids AW and our AW knows us quite well. We found this very impersonal and I must say this would only haoppen with the Public system. We do hope we are placed thru the private sector and our agency.
Hey Mommy,
It's totally possible it's the same support group. Tonight (Wednesday the 17th) is the first one. This one came about as a result of a seminar that took place this past November. If you're going to a meeting tonight and you hear a gent with a pronounced English accent, could be us!
Okay ladies....I sort of had a brain fart there....didn't see the further messages from Tara, Leigh and Mommy from my above message....:confused:
so.......
I am guessing we are all talking about the same agency here in Calgary (not AO).
DH and I are going to see what the support group is like because frankly, I could really use some support.
We've been waiting since the end of September (when we became "approved") and it feels like a lifetime ago already...holy cow...hang on..could be a long, tough ride!!
So, thanks to absolutely everyone who's been in here either lurking or replying...Blessed..you too! Sorry if I've missed anyone.
As I said....DH and I are going tonight...he's English, I'm not. We're hard to miss LOL.
Hope everyone is having a great day.
ps..my folks are in Mexico as we speak and mom says in her daily emails that she keeps thinking baby for us...hmm...wonder what's going on in the baby world for Naiter eh??
Naiter.
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Naiter
My DH and I spoke at the conference in November. We were in the seminar about when and how to tell your chidren they are adopted. We also spoke on open and clsed adoptions. I am late forties and my DH is early 50's. Our DS and DD are 10 and 8 and are full biological siblings that we adopted together. On the list we are now 41 so we probably re did our HS and everything just before you and your DH.
Age they tell me have nothing to do with it and we are not the oldest. We have been shown quite a bit.
Maybe next month we will see you as we can not make it tonight
Cheers
:cowboy: Moderator Hat On :cowboy:
I realize this discussion started in regards to support groups, but I think we are a little too close to violating our agency discussion guidelines. If you guys want to talk about your agency specifically, please pm each other.
If you are having issues with the process, or heck, if you're overjoyed - thats fine!! but you can't name your agency (this includes signatures and direct posts) or it will be in violation of our agency discussion guidelines.
Thanks guys!!
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