Finally Reunited with Birthmom after 28 years.... here is my story

Hello, I have not been around recently. My girlfriend made this account as she was the one who was searching for my birthfamily for the past 8 years.Over the years we were very close several times and not even know it. I did not know this untill recently when she found her search folder she was keeping with information she had researched and numbers and other information that was needed.We would have found her 4 years ago, but we hired a searcher who ended up being a scam artist and said she got non-id from the state and said the ages were different then what I had in my baby book.SO for years it threw us off, untill she finally camr and said she could not locate them and gave us phoney information and said she found someone in florida but it was not them.Anyways, Oct 14th of this year my girlfriend found my birthmother! We were searching for 8 years and the first 4 years we got nothing. I was privatly adopted through the DR that delivered me and a friend of the family's who was a attorney. The story was my birthmother was 16 and my birth dad was 20. It said in my non id in my baby book that marriage was not an option and although I was loved very much, adoption was the choice because of age and maturity of the mother.My girlfriend started out by calling all kinds of schools after my son was born and my adoptive parents gave me the last name she seen on the OB.We had no first name, only to go by the age and what year she would have been in school.So recently we picked up again and called this one school and my GF told them she was looking for a long lost friend by the last name but could not remember the first name. She gave a list of people with that last name, they all ended up being related to my birthmother!There was 2 female names and 1 male name and I asked them what grade they were in and the librairan told me they looked young like in 7th grade. But what really was she was in the right grade! So my gf had my birthmothers name written down for nearly 2 weeks before she realized the person could of been wrong since a lot of people don't look there age!So we called the alumni asscioation of that school since that was the oinly school in the area with that person's last name.We got in contact with the alumni and they did not call me back. SO I went on classmates.com and contacted someone from there that gradutated the year she would have.One person emailed me back and this person ended up knowing her! I asked him about it and told him to contact me and gave him my number.HE told me a few things about her and I popped the question that was she pregnant in 1978? He said with a pause and a stutter... probbbbbally I can't give you that information you would have to speak to her about that.So my gf knew she was on the right track. She asked wher she lived and he said within the area but not sure where. My gf asked if he could contact someone that knew where she was and he said he would gladly do so.So I got his email and my gf did a search where it was coming from and found out it was road runner rochester. SO my gf paid for a search with the first and last name madian name and came up with 3 people and only one of them was the age she would of been today!!!!So the next day my gf waited for me to go to work to make the call just in case she did not want to be found.My gf calls and my birthmother answes the phone.I made a thread about the conversation that is in this fourm if you would be intrested in knowing what was said.So just recently we drove up there to see her and what a reunion it was. my gf got the camcorder out and recorded the whole thing It was very emotional for all of us. My son even went up and hugged her and called her grandma.For those who do not know, she was not able to have any children after I was put up for adoption. She has a pituitary glad tumor that causes prolactin levels which causes her not to conceive.She adopted 2 children who is 8 and 11 years old.IT was very hard for me and her but we had such a wonderful time and she is so loving and caring and the sweetest person I had ever met!I finally am complete with my family the reunion was absolutly wonderfull. I am going to upload this video if anyone is wanting to see it.My birth father was a jerk, once he found out my mother was pregnant he left. HE also went AWOL from the army after basic.We stayed there for almost a week and she did everything for us, she even got me x-mas presents and we had such a wonderfull time, it's like I never left her, we were so used to each other and we are so much a like I am starting to cry :(She made me her cookies I really like when she sent them to me before we went to go see her.She is just the most kind hearted women I have ever met and she has so much love to give it tears my heart out she went through what she did.Every year she remembered my birthday and she said she went into a black hole and remembered what had happend.After I was born they wisped me away and the attorney came in and threw papers on her lap and told her to sign she was not able to hug me or give me a kiss and the 3 days she was in the hospital she was not allowed to see me in the nursery.She said she would have never given me up but she was forced to like many stories we all have read.We both fell in love with each other and we call each other all the time now and send emails and pictures. I would love to send photos of us but since site rules I cannot :(We bonded very quicjly and when we had to leave I was crying in the car on the way home because she is just so loving and I love her very much and I am so glad god was so great for me to find her and have a relationship with my mother.We got to look at photos and learn about my family history.When I was going through this I thought about all the others who have not yet found there real families and it made me so very angry and fustrated that laws would prohibit the happiness most adoptees would have when they find there natrual families.Adoption hurts everyone when families are ripped away and not able to know about them or have a relationship with there natrual families. I know the laws are so very cruel and hurtfull and causes people to have flashbacks of the past that they so badly try to forget about. It hurts everyone!The emotion that birthmothers have to go through I think is one of the hardest things ever, due to the stress of years wondering about what is going on with your child and wanting to know who they are and if they are alright. a mothers job last's foreverEven though I was removed from her at birth we are exactl alike personality wise, we both organize things the same we have the same chemistry we both have been touchy to medications and have same anxeity issues. I feel so whole now like a real person I can't explain it into words. There is so much more I could tell about that I will end this since this is already very long. I just thought I would post the story as I got some PM's asking how the reunion went.again a mothers job is never done, once you are a mother you are one forever!!!!Thank you for taking the time to read my story and I pray to god these laws will change for the sake of adoptees and there natrual families as the laws were only made to protect the adoptive families!I hope you all have the same thing happen to you when you find your birth familes, I know it can't happen to everyone but I pray to god that you all get blessed with the same thing I was blessed with!God bless you all