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For those of you who have been following along, this has been a long journey.
Last year we filed a motion to dismiss the fraud charges against us which were filed (malicious and frivolous) in 2004, and to end the visitation "Agreement" as she has not visited (and WE have) (for almost a year now).
The judge ordered mediation in October of last year.
This month we filed another motion for a hearing as her lawyers have failed to respond. (I am not sure - but it looks like no one can find her.)
So now we wait for yet another trial date, or a counter-motion, or whatever they can come up with next.
How many motions do we have to file? When does it ever end? I am upset, confused, angry.
Christie
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That is just unbelievable. It seems like everything is done to accomodate the birth mom. How many more chances can they allow her? If she does not even show for visits that should say something of her commitment. It is just amazing to me. Its like we are literally stuck in limbo...and just don't know what will happen next. To raise a child like this is just not fair and not right. Common sense tells you that you need to be there for your child all the time...not just part-time or not at all. I get so angry...because of the fact time is allowed to keep going by. The lack of interest should be of great importance its clearly abandonment. I never dreamed a hopeful adoption could go on for us now 21 months. I will always question the fact of if you wanted this baby -where have you been for over 1 year? I just don't understand how any judge could keep this on-going or would want to keep this child going through this. I am so scared of losing our angel...the thought of us not being there for him is just so painful. He is at a point now when we leave a room he immediately cries for his mommy or his daddy. I would welcome any judge to just one time walk in our shoes...love this little angels as their very own...for not months but years..and not know the outcome. Laws desperately need to change -they need to stop protecting the biological parents and start protecting the innocent children. No child should ever have to be pulled away from the only family he/she knows..I feel for you because I know what it feels like...and all I can keep saying is we need to be strong and God will get us through this...the love we have for our angels continues to shine through and remember we are doing all we can. The sheer fact that a birth parent does not communicate or even see the child for over one year should clearly speak for itself!
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Christie, I have to believe that things are going to turn around on this one for you. In a way, maybe it's a good thing that she can't be found-- it just adds to the evidence that she really is not interested in contact with your son. You have been through so much and have been a rock for so many others. Please draw on the strength of all of us as well, because we are all praying for your nightmare to end soon.
Char
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Christie,
I know exactly what you are feeling.We had a meeting with our lawyer yesterday in which I will post that later.
you get so tired of jumping through all the hoops while the bparent just walks through with no problems. You have a court system that will carry the bparent if they asked them to,but yet the REAL parents are asked to live on a shoe string budget and pay every spare dime you have to us and then flip your last coin to determine whether or not we will let you keep the child you have raised.By the way we do not care what effects it has on your child we just want to make sure that the bparent is happy when it is over.It is such an unrealistic approach to a system that preaches best interest of the child.One day it will end (it has to) and you will have your son.We may not be so lucky but GOD will see to it that his will be done.
The more I try to understand the more confused I become.The more confused I become the more angry I become.It is pure craziness.
May GOD bless you and bring you closure soon.
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The more I try to understand the more confused I become.The more confused I become the more angry I become.It is pure craziness.
Thank you ALL for your support through these boards and in the PMs I have received. Yes, daddysangel - it is impossible for me to wrap my brain around all of the insanity.
I found out late yesterday that the bmom has been in touch with her lawyers for at least a few weeks. So I went into panic mode (briefly anyway) wondering what they are preparing since it is taking them so long. Understand that they have filed motions where they LIED flat-out, distorted the truth, twisted even the most basic wording of the law, etc. There is truly nothing she - and her lawyers - won't do.
Stress does strange things: heart racing, sweating, difficulty concentrating, strange sleeping, and now I have a stress-induced rash which is being treated.
"Friends" of mine jumped ship back when they realized that this was not going to end for a long time. My true friends who have stuck it out with me still don't understand (well, one friend seems to), and they don't know what to say. They are frustrated because they do not know how to respond (and how can they?)
That is why you guys are such a lifesaver. I come here more often than I actually post - just to re-read and gain strength. Again - thank you!
So I wait and try hard to live the best life I can. Knowing what has happened in my case before it is hard not to conjure up really bad scenarios - I KNOW what they did before. I can only IMAGINE what they will do next. And none of it has been good for my child. I do know they have found her and now God help my family.
Christie
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Thank you ALL for your support through these boards and in the PMs I have received. Yes, daddysangel - it is impossible for me to wrap my brain around all of the insanity.
I found out late yesterday that the bmom has been in touch with her lawyers for at least a few weeks. So I went into panic mode (briefly anyway) wondering what they are preparing since it is taking them so long. Understand that they have filed motions where they LIED flat-out, distorted the truth, twisted even the most basic wording of the law, etc. There is truly nothing she - and her lawyers - won't do.
Stress does strange things: heart racing, sweating, difficulty concentrating, strange sleeping, and now I have a stress-induced rash which is being treated.
"Friends" of mine jumped ship back when they realized that this was not going to end for a long time. My true friends who have stuck it out with me still don't understand (well, one friend seems to), and they don't know what to say. They are frustrated because they do not know how to respond (and how can they?)
That is why you guys are such a lifesaver. I come here more often than I actually post - just to re-read and gain strength. Again - thank you!
So I wait and try hard to live the best life I can. Knowing what has happened in my case before it is hard not to conjure up really bad scenarios - I KNOW what they did before. I can only IMAGINE what they will do next. And none of it has been good for my child. I do know they have found her and now God help my family.
Christie
Christie I will hold you up in prayer tonight, and add you to our pray list tonight at chruch. Just know us on this board are with you to the end.
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