dumb founded and confused

Well we are totally dumbfounded and confused right now. We decided that we wouldn't tell family about our adoption process until we were matched, or visited with the new children in our lives. All family members now know, by schedule difficulties and wanting to know why, or my son's excitement about his hopes of having a "brother" My son and hubby were at the mall one day and this woman with a little baby about 2 weeks old in a stroller was near, and my son had to look and see. He asked the lady "where did you get that baby?" She told him "at the baby store upstairs" He spent the next hour plus trying to con his dad into going to the baby store, cause he would like to have a brother and mom would really like another baby too. This was when my son was 3 1/2. So for 4 years now, he is finally so tickled to think it's finally going to happen, he tells EVERYONE! But the reactions are dumb founding, everyone has nothing negative to say, or they think it's kind of neat. They ask questions, they want to know things, and so forth. Even friends of ours think it's just awesome! We are just kid people, and the more the marrier. But past attitudes about adoption, or the last 14 years of possible custody of my siblings. The reactions were negative. "You have your own kids to worry about, not your problem other people can't take care of theirs!" is just one of the many many things said. But I am completely set back and dumb founded, over the last 3 days we told the rest of the family about it. And everyone is actually supportive. Typical things like, boys? girls? where is who going to sleep? What furnature do you need and should I keep an eye out for? etc etc.. It simply ..... I dont' know... we are both just, awe struck and not exactly sure what's going on... Like ok ok... *pinch* wake up now... It just doesn't seem real? Anyone have input?? I mean yes we are in a perminant place, past military and moved a lot, now we are in a house we are buying. Financially we are in a much better place. Every month for the next 16 it will continue to get a little better, till we are well over 1k more a month income, just in time to pay teenagers car insurance fees *eew* But none of these things I mention are were ever the negative reactions they had. Anyone else have surprised reactions?? You see so many folks venting about peoples reactions etc, we are just so amazed and set back... I have known my family my whole life, and I just.... don't get it.. My husband says the same for his. Anyone else??? Please, advice? is this being polite and we will get chewed out later.... Do they believe it will be a failed situation and just going to sit back and nod and then *sigh* when they believe it will all fall threw? Please someone offer some suggestion.... Everything is going sooo smooth... it's almost like a story... *shrugs* Reality says it won't continue this way.. it'll take forEVER to find our children. But I still dream and hope that it continues... and with in a few weeks of completed study our ideal Boys appear, and we are matched. By summers end have them moved in and playing cars, coloring and teamed up with boo annoying their sisters... :) But please someone offere a suggestion?