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Ok, so I am filling out the application and one of the questions is Would you be open to TWINS?
I am going with Domestic adoption and the coordinator told me the more open you are when fillling out the application the faster you will be matched. Now I do eventually want to adopt 2, however lately, I have been thinking about Twins. While this will be double the work (and maybe the $$?) I kind of like the fact that I can get them both at the same time without having to go through adoption again 2 years from now.
However; being a single mom, will this be too much to handle?? I'd hate to turn down a birthmother if she has twins...
Am I crazy to consider this??
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You're not crazy to consider it, but keep in mind it really is a TON of work to have twins...the first few months are a blur to me still. We adopted our daughters at birth and had a really hard time handling it - and there were two of us! If you have a solid, dependable support system - great. If you're going to be flying completely solo, it might be too much.
Another thing to keep in mind is oftentimes twins are born early - ours were nine weeks early and spent 29 days in the NICU - so you would want to be prepared for extra time off work and such.
Good luck to you!
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SingleMiamiMom
Ok, so I am filling out the application and one of the questions is Would you be open to TWINS?
I am going with Domestic adoption and the coordinator told me the more open you are when fillling out the application the faster you will be matched. Now I do eventually want to adopt 2, however lately, I have been thinking about Twins. While this will be double the work (and maybe the $$?) I kind of like the fact that I can get them both at the same time without having to go through adoption again 2 years from now.
However; being a single mom, will this be too much to handle?? I'd hate to turn down a birthmother if she has twins...
Am I crazy to consider this??
No you are definitely not crazy..but I would advise having a STRONG support system.....Right now I am fostering a 2 mo. old infant and I am single and work full time and I did not take one day off when he was placed.....just because right now I can't afford it....
I am truly running on the strength of God right now....because I get very little sleep and the appointments are ridiculous (7 scheduled or completed so far and I have only had him a week)
But if I could be a stay at home single mom :cloud9: (Dreaming!) I would take twins in a heartbeat!!!! or if they were older twins (18 months or older) not infants I would take them while being a working single mom....
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Two things:
1) Twins are still a rarity, so the chances of this coming up as a real situation is slim.
2) You may not be crazy, but you're in for a wild ride. I can't even begin to imagine what raising twins as a single parent would be like. It was beyond exhausting - physically, emotionally, and financially - for two of us.
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Ok...I think I'm going to check of NO to "would you accept twins"
I do have a good support network...but I think one at a time will be more than enough for now.
thanks for you input.
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fostering ONE 3 week old newborn as a single parent goes on my list of "hardest things I've ever done". I cannot imagine twins..
Good luck!
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SingleMiamiMom
Am I crazy to consider this??
Have you checked into the price of daycare in your area? That would be your BIGGEST expense. Where I live, you would be looking at $2000.00 per month minimum (for 2 infants until they reach the age of 2).
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