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Hello to all!
I would like to introduce myself. My name is MominOtown and my husband and I are foster parents hoping to adopt. We received a beautiful 16 month old baby girl with the most beautiful blue eyes you've ever seen. We got her in November and she is due for her last JR on the end of this month. Her siblings went to different homes because of their behavioral issues and the CW felt it best to separate them.
I am sad to say that it is likely she will be returned home to her BP's. We are going to attend the JR but we are still praying for a miracle here. Her birthmom is a recovering addict who has completed her rehab requirement and her BF is not allowed to be around children alone. They have completed the requested requirements of the case plan and are still working on some other requests.
In any of your experiences, have you seen a judge TPR even though the case plan has been completed or is on its way? This is not the first time the family has been in the system and I am sure it will not be the last. Is it even remotely possible that based on the BP's histories, they will TPR?
It's sad to say, but I pray everyday that the BP's mess up and one of them is carted off to jail again. I know that's not a very Christian thing to do and I repent of it everyday. But we have been so blessed by this child and this is our first. We would be thrilled to adopt her.
Also, if on the miraculous chance they TPR, would it be a possibility that we could be made to take the other two even though we have never had them in our home? We know the sibs but have never been around them for a long period of time.
Any insight, encouragement, or advice we can get will be truly appreciated. Our CW is less than desirable to be around so we certainly don't ask her for any information. The whole process has left an extremely bad taste in my mouth.
Thanks!!
MominOtown
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Hi MominOtown.. My wife and I have not had the pleasure to be part of TPR proceedings yet, but it's a matter when not if. I'm sorry to say that I have never heard of the courts looking at the bios pasts to determine if tpr should happen. They assign the caseplan and if the succeed in completing their plan they will most likely get their kids back. With that said, it doesn't mean that the kids won't come back in care, that's happened to our foster children.. they were returned to bio mom only to be back in care a month later. I share your thoughts and wishes about the parents being arrested, and though it may not be a Christian thing to think, the pain and suffering they've caused their children makes it all ok, you're just trying to protect these kids. Miracles do happen, my thoughts and prayers are with you through this difficult time.
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Thanks so much for the encouraging words. I had a rough day today. I think it all just caught up to me. I also got a call on a 3 week old girl and a 3 day old boy but neither of them are going to be very long term. My husband said that he doesn't want to get another one until we know for sure what is happening with our current FD.
I agree, she may very well get put back in the system after a while. I don't look to these two getting their acts together anytime soon. I also don't think that the birthmom will be able to handle all three together and completely sober. Let me tell you the older siblings have soooo many behavioral issues. They are getting therapy for them, but I guarantee that they will be right back in the same situation they were in before.
I guess I just need to be ready when they are taken again.
Keep praying!! We need it!
:Chewie: <---love this guy!
I don't have any words of wisdom, just wanted to welcome you to the forum and to tell you that you are not alone in your thoughts and wishes. It's sad what these children are put through and many of us wish we could be given the chance of providing the children in our care with a better and more stable life than their bios ever could. While I agree with the concept of keeping families together, I don't believe it should be done at all cost, but this system is broken and the children are the ones that end up paying the high price . I wish you the best of luck, hope those that have the power to make life changing decisions for the children in our care are given the clarity of mind necessary to act in the children's best interest.
Hey there-
I was thinking that although unlikely for rights to be terminated, an extension, or continuation wouldn't be unheard of, especially if the family has a history with social services.
Just a thought... ?
And as others mentioned, even a reunification isn't necessarily permanent.
Your family is in my prayers - love her every day.
- Kim