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Hubby and I came home from an information session and we have began the adoption paper work. Wo hoo!
Please wish us luck.
My history looks so bad ( I came from a lot of abuse and so on) I hope that they don't black mark me because I don't have much family contact due to that.
Everything else for us health wise and family wise looks good except that one thing.
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My DH and I both have a history of being abused (me verbally, him verbally and physically) and we passed our homestudy just fine. Vince's mother is since deceased and I don't have any contact with my father. We did have to speak about it, and tell the worker why and how we had dealt with it and were determined not to do that to our child, and also how we were dealing/had dealt with the lack of contact with those people. It was just fine. You sound mature and intelligent, and if you can explain how you've moved past it, I think you'll be fine. The homestudy is SO scary when you are going through it, but honestly it doesn't turn out to bad as scary as you think, at least not in my case.
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I saw a worker today and I asked her what she felt about my past and how it would affect the process and she told me that they often see a past such as mine as a valuable thing rather than a negative thing.
Their big concern is that I have dealt with those issues and that I would be able to deal with someone possibly comign from that situation without having to worry about how it will affect me. So I was very happy to hear that.
By the way you have a beautiful little girl! :)
When we honestly mentioned that we had issues. (me abuse and DH had workaholic father who was rarely home) they sent us a letter stating among other things that because of DH father they feld that DH had issues. (dh father died 3 years ago) and that we should seek couples counseling before continuing. We have such and honest relationship with everyone we know and everyone was shocked and surprised about that. I cant wait to move into new CAS region.
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