Birthmoms in reunion and Mother's Day

Hi Kathy, I usually celebrate bmom's day by taking quiet time for myself and on Mother's day I celebrate with the entire family. This is my first year in reunion so I'm not sure if there will be any changes but I know there will be some time in church counting my blessings! I don't expect anything from my bson but I finally told my daughter she had an older brother last Sunday and she is absolutely thrilled. Funny, how the things you dread the most (a negative reaction) usually fail to materialize. Faith above all else. All the best.

Hi, Keds Thanks for sharing. This will be my second Mother's Day in reunion. I don't know that I will hear from D. I want to send his amom a card again. (I must get busy on it!) My daughter is coming on Friday to go to the church mother/daughter dinner with me. My son is hoping to come too. (Something tells me I'm cooking on Sunday!) My husband will be away on Mother's Day as he has been for many years. (He plays a concert in State College, PA) I'm glad your daughter is thrilled to know about her brother. As I've said before, one of the best things about my reunion with D is watching the relationship build between D and the other two. Happy Mother's Day!

DH and I will be spending the weekend with DS, who doesn't celebrate (or even acknowledge) commercially-driven holidays :( HOWEVER... I've been putting together Mother's Day cards filled with pictures to send to my children (including bson), to express my appreciation for being their mom. :love: And, because I'm missing my mom so much this Mother's Day (she passed away 12 years ago, and didn't get to be part of my reunion with bson), I decided to put together cards and pictures to send to my siblings, so we can share some memories of our time with mom. :flowergift: I'm also sending out reunion announcements and pictures to family and friends. :dance: BTW, DS is going to get a Mother's Day card, whether he celebrates it or not! Hah! :cowboy: Other than that, I'll probably have to remind DH to buy me a mocha for my special day - ugh.... :coffee: Peace, Susan :hippie:

Hi Susan,What is it about sons anyway? Does he show appreciation for you any other time of the year? I like your idea of pictures for your siblings... don't know that I can make the deadline this year. (The last time I saw my mother alive was Mother's Day, 11 years ago... like you I miss her a lot still, especially this time of the year.)Thanks for your ideas!:thanks:

BSON and I are still getting to know each other, but he has mentioned an intense dislike for retail marketing of holidays. So, I guess I know where that's headed... DS went through a period of time (couple years) where I wouldn't even get a hug (during his 20s). Eventually, he warmed up again and I get willing hugs from him. But, to say "I love you" ... well, that's another story. I tell him I love him, and he responds with "uh-huh". He told a former girlfriend basically that actions speak louder than words -- and he is a gentle, concerned person -- but I guess he thinks he doesn't need to actually SAY those words. Evidently, his "former" GF did not agree. DS does not "celebrate" holidays, as I mentioned, except for personal ones, like birthdays. He has total disdain for consumerism and commercialism. DD isn't really into consumerism either, but when it comes to "celebrating" she is totally opposite. She remembers to send cards, or at least make phone calls. When they were young, she took it upon herself to decorate our house for the holidays. I'll admit to contributing to the anti-consumerism mentality, and prefer to get something handmade, or in DS's case even spoken acknowledgment. But, he's not into that, either. I don't get it, because I was warm, affectionate and loving with both of them. DS is a real minimalist in many ways. With DH, I have to remind him to call his mother, send her a card, etc. Otherwise, I think she'd never hear from him! She lives across the country, and is in her 90s. If I get the cards, he'll sign them. But, it's up to me to get the card and see that it gets mailed -- ugh! Like I said...I'll be tugging on DH's arm, reminding him to buy me a Mother's Day mocha. Gads! Men! Sheesh! :darth: Peace, Susan :hippie:

Well I am here to report my Bson CALLED ME on Mother's day! Some of you wonderful folks Know I've recently reconnected w/ him.. I was shocked, because well I just was. I've no other children, and though some close to me will acknowledge my being a Mother... this was THAT first call. So that was sweet! I guess I didn't know how to act at first! I was gracious though, and we did have a good chat before I went back to work outside. I am still sheepish like '''aw, shucks, mam"! You can laugh at me!

That is SO AWESOME! What a great Mother's Day gift you received from bson! :dance: I actually got a "Happy Mother's Day" email note from my bson early Sunday morning. I was soooo happy! It really made my day! :banana: Peace, Susan :hippie:

Susan - was this the son who doesn't believe in all the hype? I IM'd D on Saturday to chat and he wished me a Happy Mother's Day as we signed off. My daughter gave me a mother's ring that has stones for ALL 3 children. I love it! Hope your week's gone well.

My b'son calls on Mothers Day. I'm not one for these "Hallmark Holidays" either, but I do appreciate a call & luckily get that from him & my 3 daughters.

Well, both the son I raised and bson have a great dislike for commercialism of holidays. But, the son I raised refuses to even acknowledge just about all holidays, except birthdays. It was bson who came through with a Happy Mother's Day email early Sunday morning, and it was before DD called. Bson has raised the bar in this family! It was also the best weekend ever, because in addition to the mom's day email, he has invited all of us (me, DH, DS & DD) to visit him and his family anytime...an open invitation. I'm just so happy...I feel like we've made good progress in talking about meeting. I'm thinking the end of August, by then we'll have been in reunion for seven months. Whew! Now I get ready for the next roller coaster thrill... Peace, Susan :hippie:

It's a great feeling, isn't it? I hope your reunion continues to go well as you continue to get to know and define your relationship with your bson.