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I think you have to grieve the idea of that precious little boy being your son first, then you can move forward. I am sorry this process is taking so long for you, and taking so much out of you.I don't think you're getting too old. I know others your age and up who have adopted. Hang in there!:grouphug:

You're definitely not too old. Many others, older than you and your husband, continue to adopt. Think of it this way . . . if you quit now, you CAN'T adopt. If you continue and muster all the faith and commitment you still have in you, you WILL ADOPT. Best wishes. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

I was 40 when my son was given to us. We went the private route. We let everyone know we wanted a baby and a friend had a sister who was pregnant and didn't want to be a mother. So, he is now ours. Well, almost. We have had him since birth and he will be nine months old next week. We still aren't final, but we are hoping to be very soon. 40 is a great age to be a mother. We aren't bothered by the little things and we are financial stable enough to support a child. Please let everyone you know you are interested in adopting. Someone somewhere knows someone who is struggling with an unexpected pregnancy.

Hi Amy, I am so sorry for what you have been through. As far as age goes - well, check out the "Over 40" board. With age comes some great things - don't let that stop you. How to trust again? I don't know. I think it takes having such a strong will and desire for a child that you are willing and able to grieve the loss of your child and then move forward, understanding that this could happen again - but how would you feel if you did not try again? When our love, as moms, is so strong that it seems to overwhelm us, then we do all we can to BE a MOM. I used to feel like a Mom without a child and it broke my heart every day. We are here, on this board, for the very reason that losing can and does happen. And so we support each other, love each other, and share with each other so that we may heal together. Please, don't give up. Check out SadMomma's postings. ((HUGS)) to you, Christie

I'm sorry for your loss. WE're in a different situation, but we lost our niece after a month with her when she was just a baby and didn't see her again until this past August when she was almost three. You bond so fast, and it hurts so much to let them go. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. Amy