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I was feeling so down, the process seemed to be taking so long for me. Then finally I was called with THE BEST NEWS EVER, a baby boy was born yesterday and is scheduled to be in our home Monday! :happydance:
It is a foster-to-adopt situation, but I have been told that it is very likely he will need an adoptive home. I am SO thrilled. Yet nervous and a little afraid. I don't have much experience with newborns. I wanted to share this good news with all of you, and ask for advise on caring for a newborn?
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It's so easy to fall in love with the littlest ones. But seriously---I learned this the hard way--try and think of yourself as fostering, not adopting. Wanting to adopt so badly, and just seeing fostering as a means to an end, is a very quick path to months of anxiety, frustration, sadness and misery. It's SO HARD when you think of them as "yours" and yet they're still legally attached to their birthparents.If I had one thing to do over in my son's first two years, I would have tried harder to leave the question of whether he would be adoptable until after TPR was filed. I wasted his entire baby year to worry and struggle, and I didn't ever really get to enjoy his baby self!
Thanks so much for the advice, Boulderbabe. I think what you said really applies to me. I don't look at him as "my baby" but I look at him and I think "I wish you could be my baby." I have already been worrying about whether or not we will be able to adopt him and it has only been 5 days. I know what you are saying is true, but it is so HARD to do. But I do see your point and I will definitely try my best to enjoy the time we have and not worry so much about what will happen. Thanks for sharing!
