Has your bfamily met your afamily?

I'll answer my own question! D and his wife and kids met me, my DH and other two kids in Nov. 2005. He invited us as well as his a family to his daughter's first birthday party the following March. At this point both "a" and "b" families are invited to D's on a regular basis for birthday celebrations. D & J invited both families on Christmas Day. D finally met my Dad; I met his two sisters. I've met a couple of D's other relatives on his (a)dad's side. D has not yet met my siblings (except that he lived next door to my sister for a while before we were reunited!) It's an ongoing and I hope growing relationship for the families.

Unfortunately, mine have never met, and I don't think they ever will. My birthfamily would LOVE to meet my afamily, but my mom and dad feel rather threatened by their presence in my life and we have been reunited for two years. We all live in other states so that further complicates things (or, perhaps, makes it easier in this case!) Luckily, my afamily does not actively oppose my reunion - they say "it's your deal, not ours" and take a hands-off approach. We just don't discuss it. So I guess it could be worse. But oh, how I would love to have everyone together in the same room, just once!!

They met at the birth. It was great for both sides from what I've heard. I've never solicited the information, but both aparents and my family have told me about the wonderful conversations and high opinions of the other. I'm crossing my fingers that my family will be able to see Finleigh throughout the years as I have a very open adoption. My siblings have not met her and I would love for them, too. Also, I receive all these pictures of Finleigh's cousins and relatives... I hope to meet them all someday, no matter how awkward that will be initially. They're going to be a constant part of her life and I would love to know them.

My aparents and abrothers have met my bmom and one of my bsiblings (but none of the other 3 bsiblings) once almost ten years ago during our first f2f. It was a horribly tense event... completely arranged by my aparents who wanted control of my reunion. I was 18 at the time. Since becoming an independent adult I have taken control of my own reunion and my aparents have a completely hands off approach the my relationships with my bfamily. They often pretend to not even recognize the names of my bfamily members when I bring them up. I think that it is inevidable for their paths to cross again as my bfamily and I have become VERY close... at major life events for me - such as my wedding day or the birth of any future children etc. None the less, we all live in seperate states so it is not something we could plan easily. The idea of everyone being together in the same room quite honestly scares me.... it is not something I look forward to.

Irish - D simply issues invitations and expects us all to show up! Christmas was interesting: I finally got to meet D's sisters and brother-in-law. The only one not present was A's boyfriend. (The funny thing is D and his wife complain about his parents expecting them to show up at functions they organize and the parents complain about D's functions.) Admittedly, mine's a rather different (dare I say unique) situation. First, we're all at least in the same state! Second, although we're in different synods, R (D's dad and I) are colleagues. R is also the pastor of the congregation where I grew up and last summer invited me to preach there. My dad came and visited with old friends and we had lunch with R & S and the organist. I think S was the most apprehensive of a relationship between me and D. She has relaxed at least some. D's parents were wise enough to give D the contact info and let him deal with it. (Of course he was 32 not 18!) This is of course, still a work in progress...