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Okay - I know I said I was just going to forget about it until next March when we can hire a new lawyer and file for a change of jurisdiction. But I didn't. I couldn't. I spent a sleepless and restless weekend and Monday morning (yesterday) at 8:00a.m. I was on the phone. Here is how it went: (and by the way daddysangel I was VERY NICE even though I was VERY FRUSTRATED) :clap: Me: I am wondering where our case is at since it has been a while since we have heard anything. Secretary (who knows more than the lawyer): The lawyers have been playing phone tag - yadda yadda. Me: Well, in 9 months I can hire a new lawyer and file for a change of jurisdiction, but I have every faith that XX (my lawyer) can bring this to a close before this 9 months is up. Her: Of course, I agree. I don't see any problem with that. (*Same song, different day - but no, I didn't actually SAY that.) Me: I am willing to do whatever it takes, even mediation. But the last order was for mediation to be conducted by someone who testified AGAINST me at the last trial and that is certainly something I am not willing to do. Her: That is not a problem - there are many mediators. Me: Yes, and for the judge to order the only one who has ever testified against me tells me something. I also will not attend mediation by someone who is in the back pocket of the judge or her lawyers. Her: Ummm, ummm, well, okay. Don't worry, this should not be a problem. We should be able to wrap this one right on up. Me: Whatever it takes. Please keep me posted. Have a nice day - yadda yadda. I wanted to say "I heard all of this a YEAR ago when I hired you." I wanted to say how "I do not believe you." I wanted to say - well, you get the idea. :hissy: I am sooooooo tired. I cried so hard and was so upset after we got off the phone that I could not go into work and I am REALLY pushing it at work. Won't surprise me if I get written up over everything in the last six weeks (my surgery, then ripping an internal stitch, then taking off 3 days last week - they are getting tired of me and I don't blame them). I try so hard not to let this affect me. Some days are better than others. I want so badly to move on with my life. I want to feel peace and security. I want to hold my son without fear. Thank you my friends for being here for me. For letting me vent. For listening and supporting me for so long. I DO believe this can end - please pray that my lawyer will focus on my case. My love and prayers still go out to all of you. :love: ChristieS
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It is amazing how some lawyers act in these particular cases. My lawyer told us actually not to worry. Can you even believe that one? They have no clue what we are going through. I sometimes felt as if our attorney was on the birth father's side. It is frustrating I did yell and scream at my attorney at one time. I just could not handle it anymore, from that time on I think things changed. I screamed into the phone do you know what this is like to go through emotionally- to not know what will happen from one day to the next! I was also told by my attorney if the birth father was to walk into court we would not have a chance (this was after 2 years of us having our son), we were told this would be so hard to win for adoption. However, in front of the judge we were told even if the birth father would have shown (which he did not-thank God), the judge told us she was not going to allow him to take the baby. The judge clearly told us 2 years is too long for the birth father not to have done something. So, basically if he would have shown it would not have made a difference. Total opposite of what we were told by our lawyer. So basically its up to a judge what will happen next. I feel your frustration, and I keep praying and hoping soon this will be over for you and your little angel!!
[quote=ChristieS]Okay - I know I said I was just going to forget about it until next March when we can hire a new lawyer and file for a change of jurisdiction. But I didn't. I couldn't. I spent a sleepless and restless weekend and Monday morning (yesterday) at 8:00a.m. I was on the phone. You do what you need to do to get through a day. Here is how it went: (and by the way daddysangel I was VERY NICE even though I was VERY FRUSTRATED) :clap: GOOD FOR YOU. I know how hard that is. I wanted to scream at the secretary that put the wrong time on our paper. But I did not. I wanted to say "I heard all of this a YEAR ago when I hired you." I wanted to say how "I do not believe you." I wanted to say - well, you get the idea. :hissy: Yes so much I want to say. I want them to hurt as they hurt me. I want them to know and feel exactly the way they make me feel and I want them to look my daughter in the eye and tell her GOODBYE for me. I am sooooooo tired. I cried so hard and was so upset after we got off the phone that I could not go into work and I am REALLY pushing it at work. Won't surprise me if I get written up over everything in the last six weeks (my surgery, then ripping an internal stitch, then taking off 3 days last week - they are getting tired of me and I don't blame them). " With an iron clenched fist I wake up and french kiss the morning" Which to me means I am angry I have to get up before dawn when I am so tired, so exhausted from yesterday,but it is what is best for my daughter and still greatful to GOD for giving me another day. I try so hard not to let this affect me. Some days are better than others. I want so badly to move on with my life. I want to feel peace and security. I want to hold my son without fear. Just let it be as it is.Cherish him and hold him.Hold him with peace and security in knowing that you are doing your best. Hold him because he is your son. Thank you my friends for being here for me. For letting me vent. For listening and supporting me for so long. I DO believe this can end - please pray that my lawyer will focus on my case. We thank you for all the above and I also believe it will end. Praying always GOD BLESS
D___n it, Christie. They just DON'T GET IT. I have no words for you but to tell you I continue to pray daily for you. The judge is not in charge, God is. You HAVE to believe that (well, you don't HAVE to, but I wish you could). Let me tell you a little lawyer story (and I've worked for an OUTSTANDING LAWYER and we had a WONDERFUL LAWYER thru our contested adoption but she was also an adoptive mother): I was sitting in our adoption lawyers office, she told me to walk away when she called birthfather's attorney (remember? Birthfather wanted baby girl back after 5 mos. and no putative fr. registered). But our attorney had speaker phone on and this is what I heard. Our attorney said "this is a family with other adopted children who are being hurt by this also, it compromises their security in their adoptive family" and ARE YOU READY????? Here's what bio-father's attorney said (and I heard and still want to hurt him for it): "EXACTLY!!! They HAVE other children. So they need to give this one back to the birthfather who wants to parent." If there's any ONE STATEMENT made during our fight for our daughter that hurts more than any other, this is it. I STILL want to call that guy and tell him what an ____ he is for saying what he said. I want to say to him "How many children do you have? More than one? Well, then why didn't you just offer one of YOUR CHILDREN up to the BIRTHFATHER WHO WANTED TO PARENT????" JERKS. Too many jerks to count. Fortunately, not ALL attorneys lay in the same bag. UNFORTUNATELY, Christie, you seem to be living in the stone age when it comes to judges and attorney and their over-inflated views of themselves. I can't imagine how you felt talking w/that attorney's assistant. I would have probably just LOST IT AND SCREAMED RIGHT INTO THE PHONE. Hang on, honey. The end is coming for you and I am convinced you will find peace. It's called "Faith", Your friend,
Christies, I agee with Joskids, you have to know that God has the last say. I, to was involved in a contested adoption (kinship). I was not aware of my daughter's situation with foster care and all until she was 10 months and BParents parental rights had been terminated. But when I became aware of the situation I did what needed to be done to ensure that my blood relative would remain apart of my family. I when thru emotionally and financially but I had faith and that is what you are going to have to grab hold of. I was told by the GAL & CASA WORKER that they would suggest to the Judge that my daughter be adopted by the foster parent, because they felt like I should have come forth before I did (I wasn't aware of the situation).
By law when they terminated the bio's, my rights were terminated to. To make a long story short, In the end it was all worth it. What I am trying to say is All things works together for the good of those that put their trust in the Lord. If GOD did it for me, surely he can do it for you.
You and your family will be in my prayers. God Bless!
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I really don't have the words to tell you all how much you mean to me. It means so much to be able to come here and be supported and comforted and validated and loved. You guys are so good to me and you make a difference in my life. SadMomma - yes, I am. But the great news is that when I spoke with my boss yesterday she said that the only thing she was mad about was that I would think for one second she was mad at me. :) She said she got all the work I had sent her over the weekend and last week and that I have put in plenty of hours (I can do most of my job from home). I am a teacher but this summer I am teaching online and working with distance ed (where I was director for 2 years) - so I have been working a lot from home. What a great job I have!!!! Mommy4mine - thank you for your faith and prayers and for letting me know your story that I can gain strength from. daddysangel - I love you! I have no words to express to you what all you have done for me. lonni - I have read many of your posts and I thank you for keeping up with me and for the hugs and support you show me. StacyKelly2 - Your case is over and you could walk away from the pain of others going through the same thing. You don't. You keep coming back and you keep giving and praying and loving and supporting all of us going through this. You are an angel and a gift from God to me.:wings: joskids - well, there are no words. I have paid you all the money I have (lol - truly there is not enough in the world much less here on the forums). You are WISE and BEAUTIFUL (and remember I DO know what you look like) and a blessing for me in ways above and beyond what anyone knows. If you bottle your wisdom for sell let me know so I can send you cyber$$$$$$$$$$$$$$! I appreciate that you can put my frustrations into words and actually make me smile. I appreciate that you completely GET and VALIDATE me so completely. I appreciate you helping me to know that my frustration and anger are real and valid and okay. Thank you for always responding to my posts even though you too could walk away. And for so many others who continue this long battle with me.. who read my posts and pray for me and support me. EVERY post means so much... And every prayer and gentle hug and support which come from so many of you - so many that keep up with me from afar. I thank you too. To be able to come here - it fills my spirit and lifts me up and keeps me going. Please pray my lawyer will focus on my case. [FONT=Comic Sans MS]ChristieS[/FONT]