Tuesday Topic

To me it is like the old saying goes "The grass always looks greener on the other side" until you get there:arrow:I am a SAHM, but somedays I long to be in adult company, then one of my kids will do something and I think how blessed I am to be able to be home with them.I don't think one or the other makes a "better" mom just different situations for different families. What works for one doesn't always work for another.As for SAHM not reaching their full potential, I would have to disagree. I take my job as a mom very serious and I work hard at being successful at it, and for working moms to be labeled as neglectful to their children, that isn't fair either. I know many working mom's that are awesome at balancing their work and their families and are very successful at it as well!

I've been both. I don't think one is better than the other and i do hate that so many women put the other down for their choice. every family has different needs. I'm a working mom right now. I had rather be at home but i came back to work for my ason. He needed medical insurance and my husband is self employed. he also needed to be with other kids and he was way behind academically. i had started off homeschooling him, but it wasn't what made him thrive. He seems to learn better from others instead of him immediate family, go figure! Anyway, i definitely don't think it's true that stay at home moms don't reach their potential. I personally got lots accomplished when i was at home. Nor do i think working parents are neglectful. I can say that while my time may not equal in quantity, i'm always there for my son and i'm constantly trying to make sure his needs and most of his wants are met. i know a lot of working moms that spend as much time with their children as SAHM moms do. That being said, i hope one day soon, i can return to being a SAHM.

I don't think there's any right or wrong answer. It's whatever works for you and your family. When we have kids, I hope I can do both - work very part time and get some adult company and but yet be home the majority of the time.

I think the answer depends on the individual family. For us, it would be wrong for me to be a working Mom. I mean, I would do it if something happened to dh and he could no longer work. However, for our family, we feel it is vital that I am home with the kids.However, I have a close friend who is a working Mom and she is a totally awesome Mom. For her, when she stayed home, she wasn't quite as awesome of a Mom. She needed both environments and while it is hard on her to be away from her child, she still needed her work life, too. So, she has compromised and she works 3 out of 5 days in the summer (when he's home) and during the school year she makes sure she is off either in time to pick him up from school (2 or 3 days a week) or very shortly afterwards (her parents pick him up when she can't).This works for their family. It would not for ours. I personally can not imagine coming home from a stressful day at work and being able to meet my kids' needs. I am in awe of those who can and do do this every day. For my friend, however, meeting her child's needs after stressful work is her way of relaxing.So, no right or wrong answer, just depends on the family. I do have strong views on if I should be home or not, but I also limit those views to me and my family and our situation. Make sense?