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I am in search of my birth parents. I don't have any information other than I was born in Oklahoma,on Sept. 25,1973 and my birth mother was 15 or 16 at the time of my birth. I was adopted at 6 weeks old through DHS in Oklahoma City. I am desperate to find my birth family. How do I go about this when I have no info?? Any and all advice would be appreciated.
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My adoptive parents still refuse to help me!! They have the adoption papers in a safety deposit box and refuse to give them to me!!! I did manage to find out, however, that my B. Mom had an Uncle who was a surgeon in Tulsa, so if that sounds familiar to anyone, please contact me!! I am so distraught over all of this. I can't understand why my adoptive parents are being so cruel and hateful about it!!!:hissy:
At 33 your aparents will not give you the papers that relate to your birthparents - your heritage - your medical information - your birth details? Amazing!!!
Have you spoken to a solicitor? Are they (info) yours of right (morally yes) but legally??? Do you still live at home or have you left the family home and have a family of your own? Surely they don't believe that someone your age still needs to be part of a secret. Maybe the adoption wasn't legal? Maybe there is a family connection?
Sorry - I have no advice for you except... Keep trying - keep pushing. This is your information and I think you have every right to it.
Ann
I left the family home at 18, and yes, I have a family of my own now. The "big secret" was told to me from an outsider who felt that the secret had been kept far too long. When I confronted my adoptive parents about it, they admitted it, and told me what very few details I have. They insist that they haven't done anything wrong by keeping this from me & my brother, who is also adopted. They are pretty much furious that the secret is out. Yes, Ann, it is amazing to me, too. How someone can be so cruel. You make a good point with the illegal possibility as well as a possible family connection.
So not only are you not privy to your original birthcertificate, but you were not privy even to the fact that you were adopted......Ooooo...this is unbelievable that two adults who love you could do this....regardless of their fury and their belief that they are doing what is right for them.
I think you need to find a search-angel - there are a few here on the threads who help you search - and do it at no cost to you apart from call-fees etc. If I find any, I will post back here.
Stay focussed Jeff - I also suggest you register with ISR and I'll find you a link to that too. It's possible your birthparents may have registered and are looking for you too.
Ann
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I contacted the OK DHS today regarding their Mutual Consent Registry. They are mailing me a form.
You know, as for my adoptive parents, it really doesn't surprise me. They have been this way my entire life.But, it still hurts a great deal that they are doing this to me. I deserve to know this information!! It's MY LIFE!!! Thank you for listening to me, Ann, and for the advice you have given. I need all the help I can get. I feel so lost. If it wasn't for my wife, I would surely lose my mind.
Hi Jeff
This is the link to ISSR - [url=http://www.isrr.net/]ISRR[/url]
What They Do
The International Soundex Reunion Registry is a non-profit, tax exempt, humanitarian agency founded in 1975 by Emma May Vilardi.
ISRR is a mutual consent reunion registry for persons desiring a reunion with next-of-kin.
This agency serves the needs of family members who have been separated from each other by adoption, divorce, foster care institutional care, abandonment, etc.
ISRR is not affiliated with any other registry or organization.
Contacting ISRR:
By Mail:
ISRR
P.O. Box 2312
Carson City, NV 89702
By Phone:
(775) 882-7755
I haven't found a Search-Angel in Oklahoma yet - but hopefully one will surface soon.
Ann