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Background . . . My two girls have the same birthmom and were adopted at the same time.They had spent quite a bit of time in foster care, and the younger daughter really didn't live that much with the birthmom, less then 2 years Well the younger daughter has decided she doesn't want to visit. She asks if birthmom is ok, or in jail, but that is it. The older daughter wants to see her - but seems to only be interested about twice a year, but seems to strugle with her younger sister not being interested in the visits I have told the older daughter that we need to respect the younger daughters choice to do what is best for her. Anyone been through anything similar? I just feel like I am on a balancing act - and don't have the extra hands to balance all the different people. (though the girls each have the hands ;-) )
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No exactly, but a little similar. My daughter has an older half brother that she lived with until almost 2 years ago. They were with the birth family and in foster care together. He has suffered brain damamge from the abuse and the state moved him to a higher level foster home.Anyway, he always brings up their birthfamily to my daughter. He asks about specific situations, people and places they lived. He reminds her to not forget them. His foster mom asked if I wanted her to tell him to lay off of that a little but I told her I don't know. My daughter doesn't want to discuss her birthfamily right now. I've told her that she can talk about them, love them, share whatever feelings she has. She isn't as eager to talk about them or their experiences as much as her brother. She barely remembers living with them and the things she does remember aren't so great. The last few weeks she hasn't wanted to call her brother. I wish that life wasn't so hard for these kids.
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