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He's one of those awful chipper morning people. J and I are NOT morning people. It's Coach's job to get all the kids up in the morning.
J wouldn't get up this morning. Somehow in the processes of trying to get him up, J lashed out and caught DH on the thigh with his fist. I don't think he was trying to hurt him, but it caught him just right and did hurt.
One thing I learned with Coach early on is that if someone hurts him, he'll hurt them back before he can stop himself. So we've learned to not play rough because he hurt me one time that way.
Well when J hurt him, Coach hit him back (on the arm I think). J was beaten by his grandpa when he was little. He was still half asleep too and had an anxiety reaction.
J flew out of the house without saying goodbye. Coach didn't understand why he reacted like that. I DO understand because my Dad was a screamer, and now as an adult when people scream at me I have an anxiety attack.
So I called each of them. I told Coach he needed to go find the boy and talk to him. I hope they got it worked out.
I'm also going to have to figure something out to get J up in the morning without Coach being involved. He needs to set an alarm and start getting up by himself. Its causing too much conflict.
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Just making sure I understand this correctly....Dh is Coach, correct?
I think Coach needs to really watch his reactions because it's an adult vs. a kid and lashing out in anger isn't going to help anyone, especially J. Coach is an adult and can control his actions far more than J and it is his responsibility to do so.
I think it's good that you took yourself out of things and had Coach talk to J and hopefully he apologized and they will work it out. I would suggest they do some activities together on their own to help rebuild trust etc.
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I agree with you. Yes, DH = Coach. I told him that he was wrong, and needed to go find him and apologize.
They are normally pretty close. DH has been J's football coach for three years. J has been living with us for the last two months.
My DH is normally pretty good about saying he's sorry and working things out. So I hope they were able to do that this morning.
J is just so fragile right now with his trust of us. I hope it doesn't set us back again.
If m 17 year old swung at me, I might swing back. Not the best way to handle things but not a little kid either. 17 is close to adult. Am I mixing up your story or does this kid have drug issues? i know that created problems trying to wake my son up(at 4 in the afternoon some days)
I don't wake my kids for school. They will have to wake themselves for work as adults. They use alarm clocks and deal with the consequences of oversleeping. Some of them are not morning people and neither am I. I prefer the alarm to someone waking me.