did the break the law

hi im 19 i had to have some counliing with the adoption service after a bad bit in my life but while i was in there i said i might want meat my mum so how was it done but a week or i was going on holiday for 4 months so i had lots of time to think about it i have a brothere also adopted but with A DIFFERANT FAMMILY i did ust to see him about 3 years ago before this happend but i thought it was best not to see him for time being for family reasons but the the adoption service told his adoptive mum so she phoned up my mum they were ment to be private meetings is tha\ illegal