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Do you have any experiences in a case like we have to go through since today:
We adopted our baby girl 2 1/2 months ago. The birthmom which we have great contact to signed the paper in the hospital. The birthfather disappeard at the moment he heard about her pregnancy and the plans for giving the baby for adoption. So he could not sign any paper. Anyway, he wasn't interested in the baby at all. He is 20 and just signed into the Army.
Today we got a call from our lawer. The mother of the birthfather found out last week (!!!) that her son had a daughter which was giving away for adoption. Now she wants him to take care of the baby. He now wants the baby!!! Finally our lawer found out his adress and can send the paperwork, but he won't sign it because of the mother. That means that he may contests the adoption. He is interested in the baby since his mom puts pressure on him. Also, she called the lawer and said nasty things on the voicemail that we have to give the baby back.
Do you think that the birthfather has a chance?
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But keep in mind that while bgma can influence the dad, she herself does not have any legal rights in most cases. (If they're Native American, it's a slightly different story). In some states, bdad's failure to support mom during the pregnancy can be cause for termination without consent. Go see your lawyer and have him/her lay out all the scenarios for you. Sometimes, when bdad finds out about the costs involved in contesting, or realizes that taking care of a baby is a huge financial responsibility, he becomes more reasonable...or just doesn't show up for hearings. I am not saying all bdads do this, but often when there's a grandma involved pulling the strings, that's what can happen. There are plenty of stories that go both ways, so before you panic, go see your attorney and find out what the laws say in your state.