Please give me some advice

I just read your post and I'm so sorry you and especially the two little ones are in this position.You could talk to their mom about the possibility of keeping her "just until she's on her feet." My Aunt and Uncle did that with my cousin when her oldest was born. My cousin unfortunately made many wrong choices and involved herself in drugs and criminal activity. She didn't really want to take care of her son once the novelty wore off (she was 17 at the time) and was glad to hand him off, as bad as that sounds.She has since had two more children. One is also with my Aunt and Uncle but the other she's chosen to keep with her. If offering to take care of little girl doesn't work and you believe she is in danger going back to her mom, call DSC. I forget what you said the father situation is with these girls, but DSC will go to the dad(s) before approaching any other family members should they remove them from their mom.And of course DSC being what it is, they could go back to her at the drop of a hat anyway. It's a terrible situation and I feel for you. Some people might tell you to do nothing and I see that point too. But my philosophy has always been that I can stand by and do nothing, possibly regretting it if anything ever happens, or I can cross my fingers, say a prayer and do something. I'm the do something type.

Nkkianni, Thank you so much for the quick response. I still have the baby with me right now. Everyday the mom calls and says she is picking her up tomorrow, so I have no idea how much longer she will be here. It may be that she goes "home" today or maybe not, only God knows! I have told the mom that I will keep her until she gets on her feet and can handle everything on her own. I have no idea what she will decide to do with that offer. She did tell me though that if she goes back to jail she does want us to keep her while she is incarcerated. This child's father is MIA running from the law himself, atleast that was the last I had heard on him. As of right now, I have ruled out calling DCS. If I did call all trust would be lost and the mom would not allow me to help her anymore. And you know DCS, they are over worked and under staffed, so it probably wouldn't accomplish much anyway. I guess right now I will just keep the baby as long as I can and re-evaluate the situation as needed. It's just so hard to see children that need more stabillity and security and you feel like no matter what you do it's not enough.

Here's a link if anyone needs it.[url]http://forums.adoption.com/relative-adoption-support/326049-between-rock-hard-place.html#post2105928[/url]I'll go read it now! :)

Ok, I read it. I'm sorry, I really don't have any advice for you, but I will pray for you.

bajj, Thanks for the link. A special Thank You for the prayers. These children need the Power of prayer in their lives. The Bible says that a child will suffer because of the sins of their father, this is prime example, IMO. I pray for God's Will to be done in their lives and for them to stay strong and healthy through this difficult time in their very young and fragile lives. I'm just heartsick for these children and their mom as well. She is who she is because of her upbringing(IMO)and I know this terrible cycle needs to end now, for the sake of everyone involved.

Feelingreyt - not sure I have any great advice, but I got to wondering when you said that mom calls every day saying she's coming to get the baby "tomorrow"...maybe she's doing that because she feels she needs to. Maybe she's not able yet to say "I want to leave her with you for...(x amount of time)." I'm probably not expressing that very clearly... Maybe if you said "Jane, it sounds like you're having a really tough time right now. I just want you to know we love having Amy with us and we're willing to take care of her for as long as you need us to." Then maybe she won't feel as compelled to promise what she's not ready to deliver. Make sense? I'll be praying for you.

Oh my you are in a corner. I really don't know what I would do. Definately way all the pros can cons. I can see where you would want to take in this little baby if she would let you. But, that leaves a little one (not sure of the age) with her. The child needs help too. So, does that mean you call CPS. For me I guess I would have to. I couldn't leave a little one at home to fend for themselves if the mom is in a bad way. Gosh I wish you luck in your decision.

Quick update....I still have the little sweet heart with me and the other one is with her grandma now. Please continue to pray for these children and their mother. Thanks again, everyone, for your prayers and advice.