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The last week my boys have done nothing but fight. Part of it is that my 3 year old misses big brother so when he gets home from school the 3 year old is all over big brother who gets very annoyed. Rather than talk to the 3 year old he just pushes him and eventually it leads to a fight and the 3 year old is the one that ends up crying and then I get upset with the 7 year old. I know that they need to learn to work thru things but I am at a loss right now. I would welcome any suggestions. We finally have had some snow this week so its been great to let them go out and run to get rid of some of the excess energy and it has helped.
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I have to say that my boys (4 and 6) have gotten better, but they bicker over NONSENSE!!!
Typical day -
AJ - "MOM, JD keeps making noise"
JD - "NO I'M NOT, I'M SINGING"
AJ - "but it's bad and it's making me sick to my stomach"
JD - "MOM, AJ won't let me be Yoda - he says I have to be princess Leia" (now mind you, these aren't toys, just their imaginations...)
AJ - "Well, I want to be Yoda - you're too young to be a jedi master"
JD - "NO I'M NOT"
JD - "MOM!!!!! Adam is standing up" umm....what?!?
Then I start rummaging through the cupboards for whatever junkfood I can find, otherwise I'll head for the liquor!!!!
My advice? Meditation and a 7:30 bedtime!!!!
Dragonfly, the thing about the little one being a pest when the older one finally comes home I can totally relate to now. This isn't with a boy, but is pretty much the same thing. Our newst placement is just four, so even tho she goes to preschool three mornings a week, by the time the other kids get home from school she is bored and really wanting thier attention. They, on the other hand just got home from school and either want to relax, or have their own agendas and ideas of how they want to spend the afternoon.
I find if I set some time frames it works better. So I will tell C she has to give them 15 minutes to relax when they get home then one of the kids will play with her for a certain amount of time. If noone volunteers I say who.
But telling C she has to wait, and then giving her something she can do independently until time to play keeps her from bugging them. She knows they will soon play with her. Also for the older kid(s), knowing that they only have to play for a certain amount of time makes them more willing to play. More often than not they get engrossed in the play and it goes well beyond the time I set.
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