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Cris I'm sooo happpy that you have gotten this far. I know you've been dealing with it for a loooonnnnnggg time. I don't know exactly what they are looking for but I would think there was something right off the bat that they liked about your family. They just might ask you some questions that might pertain to this particular child/ren. How many kids, age... Give me the basics.

They will be looking for a family that fits the child they are trying to match. It will depend on what type of family the child needs and which one of the presented families best fits those needs.

Well she will be 3 next month, she's totally adorable. We're in love with her already! LOL She has a seizure disorder, she takes meds , but is still has them although not as often. She was in a medical foster home , but she isnt anymore. She has developmental delays as well as verbal delays. Possibility of alcohol usage before birth .Our Cw had me do research to find out what kind of services are available for her so she could have that for the staffing and there are alot more available for her around here than we realized ( a very good thing). They said that she will do well around other small children her age since she tends to mimic what they are doing. We dont have any other small kids , I hope that doesnt hold us back. I did find other things available in the community for her to participate in to make up for that though. Thats about all of the info we have for now. Tell me what you think!

Sounds like you could be a good match. But...don't get your hopes up. I say that after being on both sides of the table. As an adoptive parent is hard not to get excited everytime you are presented. We where presented for 5 different children before being matched. It took a year. As a GAL I have been on the other side, picking the family. My last match we had 5 wonderful families. They all had everything we where looking for. It was so hard to pick. It is so hard to know a family just from their homestudy. I know we broke the hearts of the 4 other families. Sometimes it is just one thing that sticks out with a family. Sometimes it comes down to a simple vote of the members. Ask your CW if she will take a picutre of your family with her. Some staffings will not let you show pictures, others will. Pictures speak a lot more then a homestudy. You need any little thing to make your family stand out. Keep us posted.

It sounds like you have done your homework and honestly don't think not having other small kids in the home is a downfall but a good thing. You will have the time to dedicate to her. You might just want to check into maybe some Mommy/Daddy and Me classes so she will still get interaction, if you will be a sahm or if she will attend some sort of daycare. So that way it seems like you looked at every avenue and prepared yourself.

Thanks for the advice. I will check into the classes and see what's available in that area. I will be a sahm , but the classes couldnt hurt anyway. My Cw isnt actually going to be there so she cant take pictures for them to see. It is being done by phone. I know that we probably will not be the family chosen , but it's so hard not to get excited and really get your hopes up. At this point I figure that we have as good a chance as anyone else. Maybe I shouldnt be thinking that way , but otherwise I tend to run on the pessimistic side and think it will never happen.

It will happen, when it is the right child. Who knows maybe this is the child for your family. I really wish you the best of luck. The process is long, and it sucks! We where matched 5 weeks ago and still have not met our boy. We are still waiting for disclousure. The whole process is frustrating and emotional. Good luck and let us know how it goes.

Well I got bad news today . Her worker called and told me that they are not going to consider us for the child after all . They are looking for a family that has small children in the home already so that she can mimic what they do. We are so disappointed. She told me this after she talked to me for about 15 minutes giving me additional information on the child. If she had no intention of considering us why give me all the additional information . I'm listening to all of this about the child and thinking wow we really have a chance if she's calling to give all of this information and then she's drops the bomb and tells me that because we don't have small kids in our home she feels that she would be better off in another home. I understand if she would be better in another home. I just don't understand the point of telling me all of the additional info and really getting my hopes up just to throw icewater in my face.She knew when she called that she wasn't going to consider us , why didnt she just say that and be done with it?

Sometimes they just don't know how to "drop the bomb". I really think that many cw's would benefit from business communication trainings. Let's not treat these people like kinders - let's treat them as adult people and don't waste their time on unnecessary crap..... Not that I mean they need to call, say "nope", and hang up either. I have a cw what goes over every detail, every phone conversation. . . . . sometimes I want to say - look, you've already told me this 10 times - do I look like I can't absorb information or ask a question if I've thought of one? I'm sorry to hear that this match didn't work out - but there is a match for everyone! God is holding you for that special child.

I'm sorry this match didn't work for you but this child may have been to medically needy, the right child will come along and steal your hearts. I know its a let down but there are so many kids looking for homes. The right one will come along. I agree it was pointless that tell you additional information, then say no to you. Hang in there.