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I just wanted to start this thread with Mother's Day coming up. We all know Mother's Day can be one of the most painful days in the year for birthmothers. Please know we are here to listen and talk. ((((HUGS))))
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I forgot to mention that my son has his birthday May 6th. You call can imagine what that FIRST mother's day was like. 23 years ago! Yowsa.
Last year was the best though. He sms'd me a happy mother's day message. Nothing today! But I'm sure he's got a full day with his amom and stepmom and girlfriend's mom and stepmom. *phew*
BUT STILL IT SUCKS! I called my mom today. I did not really want to! But felt as if I should. She did say 'but YOU are the mom now' FIRST year she's admitted that. Let's not talk then about the fact that the girls I'm raising are 5 and 3!
Nearly over for me. My parents will actually be here for Swedish mother's day.
Question then, which would YOU celebrate? My son was born in the USA, but he's the one that was relinquished. Older daughter in the UK, youngest here in Sweden...
Birthmother's day actually sounded the best to me!
OH! HUGS TOO ALL WHO NEED THEM AND THOSE WHO DON'T KNOW THEY DO YET!
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Hey everyone, I hope you have been able to keep your spirits up. Fingernail time. I didn't expect a card/call from bson so I'm not disappointed when nothing arrived. Harder still was nothing from my other 2 (raised) until they had to be reminded by others that it was, in fact, mother's day. In all fairness, they were both away and did say they would call later but I don't think it's the same if you have to be reminded. Today was a travel day though so I kept pretty busy with work, etc. Next weekend I was planning on doing absolutely nothing but received an e-mail saying my not-so-favourite relatives are coming down for a visit. Oh well, one day I'll be looking for people to visit. Well, just glad that we all seemed to have made it through another year. All the best and a special wish to all my special moms (amom, stepmoms, bmoms). :love:
Had to work so the weekend person could be with her kids. Since mine weren't going to be available I didn't mind, in theory at least. My raised son usully calls if his girlfriend reminds him, that's just how he is. I've accepted that as a "guy thing" long ago. Anyway he didn't call and I have to admit I was disappointed. Our birthdays are in a few days and we ALWAYS go out and celebrate so I guess his thinking is bunch it all together, like 3 birds, one stone. Last year, first mothers day in reunion, d sent a really cute ecard. We've had some rough patches but things seemed to be smoothrd out lately and I let myself expect a card this year. Didn't happen. I'm feeling bummed now. That's what I get for expecting! OK, I'll be over it by the morning.
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Got to DD's last night about 6:30. Son J was there as well. They gave me a card (and pizza). I heard nothing from D. (Not surprising I guess.) My mother always believed if she had to tell you what she wanted, it didn't count. If you loved her, you'd know. (Come to think of it, that's how my one congregation operates too!) Mom always used to send me beautiful cards on Mother'sDay, telling me what a wonderful mother I was; unfortunately, the rest of the year she would tell me what I was doing "wrong" as I raised my children so that I never believed her cards! Sometimes I wish there weren't set days like Mother's Day. They build such unreal expectations (or wishes)for so many of us. All that said, it's a new day! Have a good week everyone.
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quantum, you're always welcome - just give me an hour to make the place presentable! Kathy, I can relate - my mom and MIL always tell me what I'm doing wrong, now nothing on mother's day (maybe the quiet is compliment enough). They do however tell me how great my raised children are etc. but I choose to make a connection that I had something to do with that!
As for bson, well, I was looking back and he usually doesn't contact me at all a month or so before mother's day but this year a note a few days before - a sign that we're getting more comfortable and the day isn't the be all and end all - he recognizes that it's a hard one for me.
Anyhow, another year done, as Raven said, it is what it is so let's move on and celebrate spring and the fact that we're still standing!
love to all
keds