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I had court for my now 10 month old fd. whom I brought home from the hospital, bio only came one time to visit child back in october and was under some kinda influence sent to take drug test and left never returned. @ court yesterday cw turns in report with goal as return to parent although its a concurrent plan. going back a little bio has 4 other children older 16,14,10,6 who have been in care for 4 years. their goal was changed yesterday to adoption after four yrs. judge asks me if I have anything I would like to say. Bio not present of course bearing no word from her since oct the other kids different agency havent heard from her since jan 05.
so I stand up and I state yes there is I first want to let the court know that I will respect its ruling but in light of the facts and the past record I don't understand why my fd goal has also not been changed to adoption. shes 10 months old has only seen mom 1 time @ 3months old there is no bond there. mom although she knows where child is has not contacted agency in 7 months which in itself is grounds for abandonment. I love my fd and want only whats best for her and would not like to keep her in this system as a fosterchild for the next four years. I think she deserves a life filled wif love and permancy, im dedicated to giving her that life if the court finds that she should not return to bio in light of the facts presented today. I offer pictures of the child with my other kids with myself and my varius family members also a family memorial t-shirt n which we name the lost family members and the new family members every year in which my fd name was added for this memorial day, judge thanks me and asks cw and attny for the caseworker the reason why my fd goal was not changed cw states we intend to change goal once this child has been in care 18 months. judge sarcasitically states o really well im bringing this matter back on june 20 and by that time I want a goal change for babygirl (myfd) and tpr filed for all 5 of the children I will not hold this child who is obviously loved by her family in care for another 8 months just to keep up with your time frame and I will suggest you read up on your handbook or mayb MS J (me) can update you on the law as its stated in the handbook. Ms.J I would like to once again thank you for loving and providing excellent care for babygirl B, i look forward to doing your adoption. (judge was the same judge on 2 of my other kids):cheer: so im thrilled that my fd will not have to stay in care longer just cus the agency would rather keep her as a fk then do what is best for this child. yaaay for the judge.
Good for you! Way to stick up for your FD. It's nice to hear a judge making a logical choice, even when not presented with it from the CW/GAL.
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I was so relieved. I really didn't want to have to wait another 8 months just for them to do what needed to be done. mom has no concern for this child why should she have to wait to have a family who loves her? after court the cw says well MSJ you don't really have to show up on the 20th we will change goal and file for terminatin...I told her I will be in court because I like to be there to hear and give any answers the judge may need regarding the child since I know the child best.
caseworker called to tell me they filed the tpr and willbe running it in the newpaper next week. Im so happy I know there are some people on here who ringe when they read that a ap is happy about termination and that i feel is their personal right as it is my personal right to be happy that this is where my case has landed. moms background is what it is its not my fault its not this child or none of her previous kids fault. it is a choice mom has made to live a life of self abuse and that is her right but no child should hae to suffer along with a parent. i will love this child and do my best to take care of her. I will put her needs and wants first always even if those needs and wants include searching for the women whogave her life in the futre.but for right now today i am happy that TPR s comming.
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Congratulations to you and your family. But don't expect a Christmas card from your casworker -- you really showed her up for incompetence!
mom2behappy
caseworker called to tell me they filed the tpr and willbe running it in the newpaper next week. Im so happy I know there are some people on here who ringe when they read that a ap is happy about termination and that i feel is their personal right as it is my personal right to be happy that this is where my case has landed. moms background is what it is its not my fault its not this child or none of her previous kids fault. it is a choice mom has made to live a life of self abuse and that is her right but no child should hae to suffer along with a parent. i will love this child and do my best to take care of her. I will put her needs and wants first always even if those needs and wants include searching for the women whogave her life in the futre.but for right now today i am happy that TPR s comming.
You are the perfect example of when the birthparent/family should NOT have the child! How fortunate for your little one to have such a mother! I wish you and your family all happiness!:cheer: :cheer:
Mama I know she pissed with me but guess what thats too darn bad. my motto has and will always be my fosterkids are a job to the caseworker, to me they are my kids wether they are being ru or adopted while living in my home they are my kids I will do the BEST I can for them while their if I upset or step on anyones toes on the way so be it as long as its in the best interest of the child im justified in my own world. Honestly I wasn't looking to adopt my adoption of my son was finalized in June of last year, I love this child and have from the day she came into my home my family and friends all tell me u are going to be the lil ole lady who lived in the shoe who had so many children she didn't know what to do.
Robin thanks to you also. I really appreciate yor kind words
Wow! What a story. As far as I am concerned... I think God gave you the perfect words to say. He opened that judge's ears and heart too. I pray that more judges will be as wise. Hooray for you and your family!
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Wow! I never thought I'd see so eye to eye with a judge! Congratulations!! I'm so happy the system finally put the interests of the child first!
Yay!! Gotta love them when they ask if you have something to say....AND THEN LISTEN TO IT!
Must give us an update now that the 20th has passed and TPR was listed in paper.
Kim
TPR set for July 31, yaaaaaaaay, exactly one year one day to the day she came home. we are celebrating her first birthday on july 19th with a My lil Pony theme including the renting of the ponies i cant wait i'm so excited. thanks to all for your encouragement
mom2bhappy,
Just wanted to say Congrats to you and your new darling. I LOVE reading these stories when they have happy endings.
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I also love stories with happy ending wether they be tpr or ru as long as the childs best interest is fought for im all for it.