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We are looking into foster to adopt, so I have been reading on the forums a lot!! If we do foster to adopt we would do ages 0-3, to keep them younger than our youngest child. In reading this forum I have found a lot of people waiting a long time for placements. Are they few and far between right now? Especially for young children? Thanks for any input! Dh is a bit hesitant on starting the process, so we are trying to research as much as possible so we know what we are getting into!
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It depends on situations.The type of child you are willing to take on. Race/sex/special needs/behavior issues/etc. is one issue to consider. If you are willing to take special needs/medically fragile then you may get a placement sooner.There are lots of families wanting to adopt your particular age group. I know we are in the 18 month to 4 year old range for foster to adopt and almost everyone wants a baby. I prefer toddlers myself, but whatever works.Fostering to adopt, in this age range will be easier than straight adoption. Typically the families that foster will adopt the child in their care. That all being said, in the two and a half years we have been foster to adopt we have been offered about 8 children. That were free for adoption. There was usually something with timing, as I will not move a foster child to bring in a possible adoptive child. Either there were too many in a sibling group. Or they were out out our age range, or something.Make sure your LW knows you, your situation, and what you will and won't accept. We just finalized our sons adoption, who started his journey in the system at 9 months, was placed with us at 2 as a foster/adopt TPR was filed right at 15 months in care. (I'm not exactly sure how and why his former FP let him go, but I am grateful!) and now, at a little over 3 we finalized his adoption.It will take time to get to the point of adoption from fostering. In my opinion, well worth the wait.
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I agree with what Mama says. Initially you need to make sure your placement specialist knows you and what you are wanting. The more open you can be the better. I made it clear, call me anytime, day or night, for anything in my age range (2 and under). PERIOD..... I got called in the middle of the night, called and asked can you go pick this child up in a hr, and called for I just had a child removed and heading your way......... The cold hard truth is they do not want to be seen as a adoption agency. They need a place to take this child quickly and they will call the people they know will take children quickly.... I asked very few questions when I was called, they give you the basics when they call: age, reason for removal, race, quick thoughts on how long they expect this case to last, but its enough information that I sort of have a sense on what the initial story is. And I always said YES. We are still fairly new to the foster care world but I can see that as you begin to get to know more case workers, and people within the system they will want you going forward, to this day I get calls asking if I can take kids.... there is a HUGE need out there for all ages and I have been shocked at the need for these little ones as well.. that's all I get calls for. Its there what ever age you want, you can have, just don't come off as being difficult from the start and to strict on your requirements or you will be way down the list to get the calls.... Best of luck to you. Its a great rewarding thing to be a part of...
I will also add our intention is fostering to adopt and know eventually we will have a placement that stays forever. Until that day I will love the child I foster that goes back home or to another family member no less than my own child... If you chose to go this way you may have several placements before the forever child is the one that stays...
I think it varies greatly according to where you live...we live in one of the most active counties in the state. Our age range was 0-2, low medical needs, no other restrictions. Our first placement call last April was before we were even licensed. Our second was when we weren't even wanting to take another placement. Our third we opened our home, didn't get any sort of calls for about 6 weeks, then had calls trickle in every few days until we got one we accepted. That was last September. We will take any foster placement though, not just restricted to low risk. Our first RUed, our second moved to family, and our third is still here, and will be for awhile, but it's too early to know which way the case will go.
We haven't had success with natural means of procreating a child. We have been licensed since August 2014 as foster to adopt. We are also looking for 0-5 years, low medical needs,etc. I'd say we're not picky, I almost prefer a toddler. We have had no placements. Our caseworker keeps telling us "when God says it's time, we'll be matched." I almost think we are being strung along by Indiana DCS. I don't think we'll be matched by them anytime soon. The adoption attorney we have spoken with has done many DCS adoptions as well as private, she said that DCS placement could take upwards of 4-5 years.
My heart hurts every time I see that silly crib in the spare room
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I'm in the Tippecanoe county region (just making some assumptions based on your username :) and the first one happened fairly quickly and the second one took a longer time and, though it looked like it was a clear-cut case, it's not turning out that way and I don't think adoption will be an option for that one.
I know it's hard to wait, but it will happen! (If it hasn't already!) Good luck!