Info please

I am here to ask for help. I was recently united with my daughter who I had to give up for adoption 45 years ago. I never tried to hide and because of the laws in Il and my lack of memory of the event I had no way of even starting to find her. I had registered with the state and finally she found me. I had heard that it is best to follow the requests of the adoptee so I have. One of her early stipulations was email only. Okay I thought. At first she was great. Open and excited and wanting to meet me. But within weeks she cooled to a mild chill. We have met. I thought it went okay but since then we have had very little contact. Still the embargo on talking. I have asked why and she says nothing but "I like email". I suspect that email only keeps it from being too personal, human. I had made two appointments to talk to her, once on her birthday and once two weeks ago. She agreed but did not answer the phone. She was concerned regarding my history and thought that it was pretty disfunctional. Which is the truth, however she also did not believe me. She finally agreed to talk to a person I have known since 4th grade. She did. She told this person she could not believe that her bfa and sibs could possibly be the way I say they are. (but they are!!!) Any way her fa and sib do not want her in their lives and have said so but now she is continuing to try to push them into doing it her way and talking to her. I understand she wants to know them. She just found out she was adopted and is hell bent to connect with her family even though they have sent a very clear message. I understand on one hand but also believe they have a right to their boundaries. At any rate my real question is: she has cooled off so much I hardly ever hear from her. Not unless she wants some sort of info or I email her first. I am broken hearted but am trying to stay out of her way and frankly trying to keep from being crushed any more than I have been. It really hurts. I had been without her for 45 years and ofcourse I had the romantic idea that we would at the very least become friends. I do not see that happening and I know I can't force her to want me in her life but I wish she would. Sooo why is this happening? Can any one help me understand????? :confused: