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We found out yesterday that the expectant mom with whom we have been matched for months has been scamming us. She is using multiple attorneys and is matched with multiple couples, all of whom have been paying her "expenses." So here we have been all excited about an AA baby girl whose due date is Aug. 20, who would be a little sister to our AA son.
Our (now ex) e-mom is definitely pregnant with a little girl. I traveled to meet her in OK City on May 15 (at great expense), accompanied her to an OB appt., and saw an ultrasound. I got my heart completely wrapped around that little girl too.
We know of another couple (an AA couple who are from the New York area) who visited with her on the 19th and 20th of this month and went with her to a different OB than the one that I took her to. I wonder if they know that they are being scammed.
Her mother--who is in on the scam--has been with her during attorney and couple meetings. There is also a boyfriend (the baby's father?) who may or may not be in on the scam.
I was receiving messages from her just this morning (she got busted yesterday) begging me to adopt the baby. I wonder if the other couples involved are also getting messages, or if they even know that she is a fraud.
My feeling from conversations that I had with her after she was busted (she claims that she was confused about who to give the baby to and didn't want to hurt any of the couples' feelings LOL) is that she is planning to parent and is using the pregnancy to defraud couples now and will use the baby after the birth to try to extort more money from couples.
I can't believe that there are people like this out there who would prey on couples like us who are working with everything we have to build a family. I am beyond hurt and betrayed. I am mourning the loss of my baby girl.
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I am so sorry, Cuba. While I have had failed matches - or have been the #2 choice - many times, I can't imagine the shock and horror of it all being a scam. Is there anywhere you can post this so other couples can find out what this woman is doing??? It is SO wrong. And she'll be parenting this poor little girl? That's so sad.Cry, scream, drink some wine, eat some chocolate - and come here to vent as much as you need!!! Many of us have been there, and totally understand your pain.:grouphug: to you, my friend. I wish you peace in the tumultuous days to come. Sandy
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I am so sorry this has happened. We had a failed AA match after working with the emom for 5 months. We talked and emailed weekly. She was not "scamming" us, but chose to parent in the end. I was so hurt, because we did feel very used in the end. She did not even tell us that she was choosing to parent. Our SW hunted her down when she stopped returning our calls and emails. This can be such a long and hard proccess. I can't wait to be placed and to be able to say that this was all worth it. I hope you baby finds his/her way to you soon.
CubanaYogini
We found out yesterday that the expectant mom with whom we have been matched for months has been scamming us. She is using multiple attorneys and is matched with multiple couples, all of whom have been paying her "expenses." So here we have been all excited about an AA baby girl whose due date is Aug. 20, who would be a little sister to our AA son.
Our (now ex) e-mom is definitely pregnant with a little girl. I traveled to meet her in OK City on May 15 (at great expense), accompanied her to an OB appt., and saw an ultrasound. I got my heart completely wrapped around that little girl too.
We know of another couple (an AA couple who are from the New York area) who visited with her on the 19th and 20th of this month and went with her to a different OB than the one that I took her to. I wonder if they know that they are being scammed.
Her mother--who is in on the scam--has been with her during attorney and couple meetings. There is also a boyfriend (the baby's father?) who may or may not be in on the scam.
I was receiving messages from her just this morning (she got busted yesterday) begging me to adopt the baby. I wonder if the other couples involved are also getting messages, or if they even know that she is a fraud.
My feeling from conversations that I had with her after she was busted (she claims that she was confused about who to give the baby to and didn't want to hurt any of the couples' feelings LOL) is that she is planning to parent and is using the pregnancy to defraud couples now and will use the baby after the birth to try to extort more money from couples.
I can't believe that there are people like this out there who would prey on couples like us who are working with everything we have to build a family. I am beyond hurt and betrayed. I am mourning the loss of my baby girl.
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