Do you understand better now why domestic adoption is, although legally possible, an almost impossible option? Your answer is well rehearsed, of the hand waving "problem solved" style but there is a reality out here. Go out, get educated, learn what reality is about. Not the nicely packaged words. The reality.
Not all domestic adoptions involve a birthmother choosing the adoptive family. I've adopted domestically twice in the last 9 years. Both times, the agency, not the birthmother, chose the family. Both times the wait was less than 6 months. Both adoptions were private agency. Both adoptions were less than $3100.00
If you want to adopt a child with all the rights and privileges of an American citizen, get your citizenship and THEN adopt. If you want to adopt as a citizen of another country then do it-but don't complain about how difficult it is for you. Why should the US rewrite adoption laws to accomodate & benefit NON-citizens? There is no benefit to the United States to have non-citizens going overseas and bringing more non-citizens into the US. Do Israel & Switzerland allow
non-citizens on visas to bring other non-citizens into their countries?