DS Needs Me More Than He Let On!

July 14, 2008

Hi, I guess I only have two weeks left on this forum category but we just had our first cuddle in our bed and I'm so excited. He actually lay down, put his feet up on Mt. Daddy (as we call him sometimes) his head was on me and he just CUDDLED.

DS has never lay down on our bed (well not since he could sit up). He has some kind of thing about laying flat on his back. I read about co-sleeping and I'm jealous. I think it would be so delicious to spend the whole night with him sleeping between us. He even lay his cheek against my cheek AND LEFT IT THERE at one point.

I've posted before how he has almost no stranger anxiety and is very independent (happy and playful and responsive but independent!). I don't know but maybe some other level of attachment is taking place since he's been sick. Maybe I've been different? I don't know. Also last night he bumped his head at my sister's house and he only stopped crying when I took him.

I didn't think he needed me for much but clearly he does! :cheer:

Anyone else have a kid like this? Everyone says I'm lucky he's so independent but I think little babies don't have to be independent, they are babies!

nikkianni

July 14, 2008

Actually Storm, I often read your posts and laugh. Our kids could start a club for independence. And I promise you, it really is a good thing.

Growing up, my cousins were always clinging to my Aunt and Uncle, never let them out if their sight, etc.

My Mom said it always made her feel bad because my brothers and I would just run off and play, totally ignoring her. And my Aunt and Uncle were terrible parents.

Then it hit her. We KNEW we were loved. We didn't need to be reassured of it every minute. We knew that if we needed, our parents would be there no matter what. Our poor cousins didn't have that security.

So I'm actually very proud of how independent DD is.

That said, when something is wrong, it'd better be Mommy who's there.

DH has been in the hospital for the last few days and my otherwise independent child would not even sleep last night because she couldn't stop staring at me and smiling and kissing and patting my cheeks.

I know your E's been sick and these kinds of things tend to bring out the not so independent side. Enjoy it, but know that even when he's feeling better and he goes back to being his very independent, need nobody self, it's because you're a good mom. And moms will always be needed.