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Is there anything you would love to hear from your child's other mother?
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The thing that my girls' birthmom has told me on more than one occasion is what I cherish - that she made the right choice in parents for her babies and while she knows she will always be sad that she couldn't keep them with her, she's very comfortable with the family she chose.
I can't begin to tell you how much that comforts me and validates us as parents.
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It is not so much what I would want to hear but what I would like my kids to here. They were adopted from the foster care system. I wish that my kids could hear from their birthparents that even though they love them (because I believe they do) they just couldn't do it. they were too young, or the drug issues were to much or they just didn't know how to parent etc. My kids take the responsibility for the removal no matter what I tell them. Then on the otherhand they think that I stole them from their families. I wish my kids could have this weight lifted from their shoulders.
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as a bmom-
I would love to hear that he is healthy and reasonably happy-
i also would love to hear that he has the letter I wrote him when he was an infant...
to his amom
i would love to be able to see him, and get to know him as an adult-
if he wants to meet me, I do NOT want to replace you
I chose you for a reason!! YOU are his parents...i would
never try to cause any distress or strain in your family....
I feel nothing but love for you- i entrusted my child to you- how could I not???
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