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Hi everyone, I'm new here in terms of posting. I'd really appreciate some advice. So here's the deal; we have had our DD since age 3 days. We picked her up at the hospital. She's 5 1/2 months now. She was our Foster Daughter (not through CPS) until we became her Legal Guardian's in June per BM request. After that, BM asked us to adopt. BM did not list a BF on birth certificate and said she didn't know who it was which is what she also told the Adoption Facilitator and what we put on the Adoption Petition to the court. Long story short, BM's consent became irrevocable mid July and she's in rehab. Well, she called me a few days ago to say that our DD's BF is at the same rehab and she was in a panic. This is when I found out she knows who the BF is. A couple of days have passed and I recieved a phone call from BM's Grandma with a message from BM that she had a conversation with BF and told him about DD. She said that BF was supportive of BM's decision to adopt DD out and that he wouldn't interfere. I don't know if that's good enough now that I know there's a presumably known BF. BTW, this is an independent, open adoption and we don't have an Attorney. We are in California. Any advice would be so appreciated. :thanks:
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Sherijo71
Hi everyone, I'm new here in terms of posting. I'd really appreciate some advice. So here's the deal; we have had our DD since age 3 days. We picked her up at the hospital. She's 5 1/2 months now. She was our Foster Daughter (not through CPS) until we became her Legal Guardian's in June per BM request. After that, BM asked us to adopt. BM did not list a BF on birth certificate and said she didn't know who it was which is what she also told the Adoption Facilitator and what we put on the Adoption Petition to the court. Long story short, BM's consent became irrevocable mid July and she's in rehab. Well, she called me a few days ago to say that our DD's BF is at the same rehab and she was in a panic. This is when I found out she knows who the BF is. A couple of days have passed and I recieved a phone call from BM's Grandma with a message from BM that she had a conversation with BF and told him about DD. She said that BF was supportive of BM's decision to adopt DD out and that he wouldn't interfere. I don't know if that's good enough now that I know there's a presumably known BF. BTW, this is an independent, open adoption and we don't have an Attorney. We are in California. Any advice would be so appreciated. :thanks:
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Yes and actually this could be a good thing. You will have done everything legally and ethically and will hopefully have at the very least medical info to give your child on the bio father.
But yeah talk to an attorney. I would consult with a Quad A (AAAA) attorney in your state.
Hopefully the cost won't be too much and will be worth it!