Proceede with caution!

August 24, 2008

I love the fact that this site reunited me and my (1/2) brother and sister. However what this did not prepare me for was the fact we would be so different!!!

It has been a wonderful experience that I would not trade for the world, but it came and comes with a price. Are your ready for the emotional "stuff" that can gum up your purpose in searching?

For me- both knew about me from day 1 and I had no clue about them until I got my records opened.

Maybe me being the oldest they had expectations when they were kids . . . I however never knew and that is something that they will never understand.

Blood?!?!? when you are adopted BLOOD is nothing! your friends and time with them become your family!

If I had it to do again (meeting them ) YES I WOULD-

BUT I do believe they and I would have been better off keeping our distance and not trying so **** hard to make up for a decision that was made by bio mom.

We're all wonder. . . who do we look like? Only us who were placed for adoption will ever understand that feeling.

MY ADVICE- Find comfort in your own skin, no one can define you- but YOU!!!!

God Bless-

Jackiejdajda

August 26, 2008

Thanks for sharing

My bson met his cousin whom my sister was pregnant with when I was pregnant.. only my sister was married..

I know my bson liked meeting him and my third born son.. He and my daughter have not met..

Jackie

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Jensboys

August 26, 2008

I took my 13 year old back to meet his bio siblings this July. It was really fascinating. He has an older half brother (15), 3 younger sisters (one full, two half). I dont know what their relationship will look like long term, but from the adoptive mother perspective it was interesting to watch the bond between the kids. They had never met my son before, but had all the hundreds of pictures I have sent his first mother over the years, and I only had a couple pictures from them.

Plus, my sons' other full brothers is our OTHER son (they were adopted together), and we have two other sons as well.

The sibling relationship is supposed to be "easier" than the bparent - bchild relationship. But overall its STILL confusing, especially when you add lifestyle differences, edcuational differences, cultural differences into the mix.

No regrets ... just lots of wonder of what it all will bring down the road.