Soo... What do I do and when do I start?

I do not claim to be an expert, but I know what worked for me. I had no notice before I got my daughter, so I don't know the birth control protocol. I think it is easy to find online. I got milk in less than a month, and I have never been pregnant. What worked for me was pumping and domperidone. I think I could have gotten milk in a mere week or 2, but I tried other methods (herbs and stuff) that did not work before I moved on to the domperidone. I would start the prenatal vitamins and prenatal essential fatty acids (called lipil or something) now. I don't know that I would bother talking to your doctor. My doctor had never heard of adoptive breastfeeding and didn't think it could be done. I would talk to La Leche League. They have great advice and can probably hook you up with someone in your area that has done it already. I would suggest not bottle feeding. You can cup feed or syringe feed or use a supplemental nursing system. They are all messy and a giant pain, but the baby won't learn to use their mouth all wrong. Also no pacifier. The baby wants to suck, and if the only option is nursing, they will be a lot more interested. Also, one the baby is nursing, the high frequency will help you make more and more milk. I would cosleep and nurse on demand in the middle of the night. I think that is what helped me get a full supply. I love the Peanut SHell pouch sling. I have nursed DD in it from when she was 5 months till now at 16 months. It is very easy to be modest while nursing in it. I would rent or buy a hospital grade double pump. I paid about $30 a month for mine. I didn't need it once my daughter started nursing. Also, I cut small holes in the nipples of an old sports bra, and put the nipple shields of the breastpump through there so I could pump hands free. They say you are supposed to think about your baby while you are pumping, but that is so tedious that I couldn't be bothered. I would just watch TV. It didn't seem to make any difference to me. Also, some people aren't able to pump much milk even if they have a full supply. So don't get discouraged if not much milk comes out. Babies are much better at extracting milk than pumps. I would put Vit E on your breasts. I got stretch marks. Glamourmom long nursing tanks are awesome. They aren't obviously nursing tanks, so they can be worn everywhere. I just throw a cardigan over it in the winter. That paired with a sling makes it so easy to nurse in public. To repeat myself: Go to La Leche League Meetings. Free and so helpful. I had no idea there was so much to learn about breastfeeding. Support group meetings were where I got tons of help with different challenges I encountered. Good luck.