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Have any of you had recurrant dreams that seem to be connected with adoption? I haven't had any (that I remember) for years, but when I was in seminary I used to dream that I had given birth again (for the umpteenth time) and somehow I lost the infant. I'm not sure what I did with them (somehow I knew there were others.), but later in the dream I'd find myself in class not knowing what had become of the baby. I suspect this dream was triggered by several factors. 1st: I was in school again. (After I gave birth to D and placed him, I finished my senior year at college as if he hadn't existed. And here I was, a fulltime student for the first time since that year.) 2nd: I was feeling guilty about being away from my children so much. And 3rd: My sister (with whom I was staying a couple nights a week) gave birth to her first (and only) child. Anyone else have a dream to share?
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I had those same dreams several times after my son was born. I had not experienced adoption until he was eight though. I suppose it's an inate fear mom's have been blessed with by our creator to keep us on our toes, day and night. The adoption experience, no doubt, would make those dreams more disturbing and more frequent. My son was born in 1980 and the day after I brought him home, a baby was stolen from the hospital where he was born. I was plagued with "that could have been my baby" thoughts which contributed to some of my hypervigilence. Then a month or so later, children started to disappear in Atlanta. Some out of their windows while they slept. I also had separation anxiety as a child and I think that may have transfered to fear of separation from my child. I had a hard time putting him in day care. After I placed my daughter, I had numerous dreams of losing my dog, the one I got so attached to around the birth of my daughter. On a maternal instictive level, the dog became my child. You know, like that picture of that gorilla holding the kitten after the loss of her infant? Having her, allowed me to return to school, work and taking care of business in complete denial of having lost anything. It wasn't until my dog died 16 years later that the loss hit me. After that, there was a resurgence of those losing a child dreams.
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Have any of you had recurrant dreams that seem to be connected with adoption? I haven't had any (that I remember) for years, but when I was in seminary I used to dream that I had given birth again (for the umpteenth time) and somehow I lost the infant.