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So my son's bio mom called today. We have an open domestic adoption. She told me that she couldn't have her visit with G unitl after Jan because as of the 31st she will be homeless. I was so floored I didn't know what to say I just said sorry. Now I feel bad I didn't ask why or the events. To be honest I was just sad because she had appeared to gotten her life back on track and had a semi decent stable life going. I just want both of G's mom and dad to get their acts together so badly for his sake so when he is older ..... I don't know what I'm thinking just sad. She ask me how G's is doing told her he is doing great, super smart, photgraphic memory, loves singing the Tim McGraw song, Last Dollar (1,2,3, like I bird ...) Hope I didn't say the wrong thing and make her sadder. Any hints or clues? Thinking of calling the adoption agency and seeing what they can do if any. They have a great after support group and I know she has been going to those meetings. BTW G will be five in two weeks. We both couldn't believe it had been five years that we had been in each others lives it seem like it had gone by pretty fast.
Angela
adopted son in open domestic 11/03
what prego after seven years DS 4/05
Prego agian DD 4/06:hissy: :hissy:
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You can only help so much but my first reaction is that she was looking for some kind of handout or help. I support open adoption but I can see some bmothers possibly trying to leech off of their child's adopted parents. I am not sure of the particulars of her visits with G but to not be able to have a visit because she will be homeless sounds like she is working on your sympathies. It's good to care and have concern, but be cautious as well.
I've had street people outside of my old church tell me that I am not living like a Christian because I am not willing to give them $20.00 to help them "fix" their car. People will try to guilt you into doing things. it is a fact of life that we all deal with.
Best wishes.
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I think that caution is always good. Do you have a way to contact her? Is there really a reason why you can't have a visit with her until Jan. -- where do you usually meet? Many people these days are basically one paycheck away from being homeless. I imagine it's especially difficult for someone who is working to get her life on track. My husband and I are both college educated professionals. Luckily, one of us has always had a fulltime job when the other lost theirs. As a teacher, I was "riffed" (RIF=reduction in force)twice as the school district reduced staff. Many bparents don't have the resources and/or education to find something else quickly. I guess what I'm trying to say is that maybe we need to be cautious in assuming the bparent just blew another chance. (They may have or it might not be their fault. This economy is not being kind to the less fortunate among us.)
It's so sad when people find themselves homeless or just about homeless, whatever the case maybe. You did right by not asking her why or how this happened so you shouldn't feel bad. The bmom is not your responsibility no matter how you may feel. So you take care and stop worrying about the bmom, God will look out for her.
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