Initial Contact

Hello, I want to give a short history. My fiance and I broke up for a 2 week period in 1992, I had sex with a guy from work, strictly physical. I became pregnant, I had an intuition that the other guy was bio father, but too close to really tell. Told both guy and fiance (now husband). The other guy was younger than me and already had a 1 month old, since I wasn't 100%, my husband and I choose to raise the baby as ours, not knowing. My son was born and looked 100% like me, but as years go on, the resemblance to other guy is scary. Husband and son don't have good relationship, husband very bitter that son isn't his. We have paternity test and the results show husband is not father. I decide to tell my son the truth and he took it rather well for a 15 yr old. Found bio father with no problem. The day I contacted him, we met and he was obviously in shock. Next week we met him, his fiance and his 5 yr old. We liked them a lot. Next week, my son, me and bio dad meet. To say it's awkward is an understatement. I had asked bio dad if he wanted paternity test, he didn't commit to it, so I asked him while son sitting there, so do you think he resembles you? He said, looking at the pictures, not so much, but now that he's here in front of me, I know 100% that he's mine. Bio dad wants to throw him a bday party (he just turned 16) to meet his whole family, son is scared and doesn't know how to feel about the whole thing. I need to start him in counseling, but don't want just anyone-need someone with experience. Does anyone have any suggestions? Thanks for listening, Zachsmomma