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So we finished our classes last night and had our graduation party, and this couple who we have become friends with tells us they would like to recommend us for their foster child. Long story short she is a hospital worker, she is older with grown children, never intended to foster but volunteered to help with this baby and in 2 days the baby was home with her! They don't want to keep her and we have all been talking a lot. SO can her recommendation have any pull in us getting this baby???
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So we finished our classes last night and had our graduation party, and this couple who we have become friends with tells us they would like to recommend us for their foster child. Long story short she is a hospital worker, she is older with grown children, never intended to foster but volunteered to help with this baby and in 2 days the baby was home with her! They don't want to keep her and we have all been talking a lot. SO can her recommendation have any pull in us getting this baby???
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I know of a couple that got their first daughter that way. The foster mother was older and did not intend to keep the little girl. The foster mother recommended this couple (which I don't believe at the time even had a homestudy) and they were able to adopt her. She did visit regulary with the little girl and foster mother BEFORE she became available, so she could say the bonding had already started. On the other hand if the foster parents think you are a good match and the worker would have less work to do to find a family and you are already licensed it would be the best for everyone. God bless and praying all goes well for you and the little girl. :love:
We have already discussed the possiblity of a situation similar to this occurring in our neck of the woods. It is very likely that our ason's (12 mos) mom will have another and soon if you can believe her threats in court. Since she has had rights terminated almost immediately on the last two (3 kids total all in different states), the courts have already taken the position that any child she has hence forth will be removed and rights terminated. She is unable to fix the problems that cause termination and unless one of these times she chooses a father that can raise a child (unlikely) this will continue to be the case. IF she has another child the state plans to take it into custody and place with us because we have the only sibling in this state, if so we plan to have the child adopted by a close friend and her husband as we do not wish to grow our family in that manner but the children will still be raised nearly together (like cousins). Our friends are in the process of becoming licensed and we hope that they can just place the baby with them from the get go, avoiding the trauma of attachment/bonding severment. We are told by the 5 county area that if the child is born outside the five county area it will have to be placed with us until jurisdiction is changed to our area, because only our status as "relatives" will get it out of whatever area she gives birth in.
In short, yes, a foster parent can make recomendations as to future placements, including adoptive placements. In our area, current foster parents of any child sit in on the "staffing" and contribute to the decision when picking an adoptive family for thier foster children.