Buying for baby before match?

We have other children, but I started picking up things here and there for our future child almost as soon as we began the adoption process. I think it helps you to have faith that this is going to happen... at least it has for me. :)

We bought a few things here and there; some clothes, crib, stroller/carseat. It game me hope and was kinda fun. We put them in a room and shut the door. :flower: If it would help you feel better, it's okay to buy some stuff beforehand.

I researched everything, pre-match. I also bought a car seat & stroller combo (which I wouldn't recommend). We had matched by the time we got our crib and changing table. However, we had the room painted, shelves up, bookcases and some toys together. My son's birthmom said she really liked that - there was a picture of the room in our profile. I bought a few things when I was out - clothes that I really liked or books that we on clearance. I really would do the research and get a car seat. You have to have one of those to bring baby home! Good luck on your adoption journey. :hippie:

I had to buy some stuff coz I was going a little "nuts" but I am glad I did coz things ended up happening pretty quickly. Buy a blanket or something. Anything to make you feel better. It wouldn't hurt. Your SW probably didn't want you to "go all out" but a few things would hurt. Please keep us posted and goodluck

Thanks so much for all of the replies. I think I will get a little pack of onesies. Surely I will need some of those:) Maybe one little thing a month will help pass the time.

Believe me, you will need ALOT of those. you can never have too many onesies, i always got white so its not gender specific and you can bleach them when they get poopie!!! i think you are pretty safe to go and buy alot of them. i got my stroller/car seat combo bought and i have been buying clothes(neutral stuff) for like 3 years, but i was expecting to get pregnant the last 4 years, that is why i was buying alot of stuff. But we are still waiting for a match and my hubby wont let me buy anymore till we get matched. Darn!! Rach

Yeah, definitely some onesies. And I do know exactly what type of car seat that I want. I think that they expire after some point, so I will run out and get that real fast when I need to.

I am matched, for almost a month now, baby is due in May and things are goign well. ButI am the opposite, I still cant bring myself to buy things. I am so nervous and afraid to let myself be vulnerable after all the losses we have been through dealing with infertility.

Buying things definatly helps with my sanity! I bought a big plastic container to keep it all in. I open it up whenever I need a pick me up.

We actually had the nursery set up way before we were matched... mostly, it was stuff given to us. For me personally, I wanted to either have it ready way before or wait until our child was home. It was one way of guarding my heart in case the child's parents made the decision to parent their child. That way, I was planning with one specific child in mind. The things we did buy when we matched (it was less than 48 hours before DD was born) were the carseat and a two take home outfits one boy, one girl), a bag of diapers and wipes. The carseat was a relative generic purchase and the other things were something we could give to the child's parents if they chose to parent. We had lots of help in the hours after DD was born... friends literally filled our front room with their generous gifts that helped us through those first days. We were grateful for their love and they were happy to be able to help. You have to do what you are comfortable with knowing the potential outcomes of a match. Best of everything.

the nursery thing is so weird. our sw also told us not to have a nursery set up (I think i would have had been sad walking by one anyway!). but when we were matched with dd's birth parents, her birth mom really wanted to "see" our nursery. so we did it before dd was born....and yes, i did it gender neutral (a way to protect myself). my dh warned me against buying any little girl things, but i just said, what the heck and bought some adorable baby girl things and put them in a closet. i think it is such an individual thing so please do whatever helps keep you sane (for me, it was martinis!).